What age did you have children? Do you wish you had waited or had them earlier? If so, why?
and why did you wait to have them, because you wanted to focus on your career?
If you had them at a younger age, why did you do so?
2006-09-06 23:02:09 · 17 answers · asked by Astrid Beau Bega Belda Calixte 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Younger (25-30) years old. If I married at an older age, my child will not be able to see me for another 10 years.
2006-09-06 23:03:47 · answer #1 · answered by horensen 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I definitely think that having kids between 25-30 is ideal. My husband and I are 23 now and are planning on waiting 2 more years. We will be completely done with college and will have some time to go out and see the world and experience different things before we settle down. Children take up so much energy and patience that if you wait too late into your 30s you will have a harder time conceiving and not have the energy once you have the child. Pretty much everyone will say "oh, we had kids at this age and we'd do it all the same because it worked out so well" but first of all they don't know any other way and secondly, once you have children you wouldn't want to change them or your situation because you love your kids. But before 25 most people are to immature too handle kids, and after your early 30s you will be too tired to really enjoy it. Good luck!
2006-09-07 07:13:09 · answer #2 · answered by Ashley L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey I think younger I had my first daughter when I was 20 and now I'm almost 23 and had my second child. I wanted my children at an early age that way when they go off to Collage I'll still be some what younger. It all depends on when you want children. If I could go back and do it all over again I'd do it the same way.
2006-09-07 06:21:39 · answer #3 · answered by Ashley F.M. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got pregnant with my son when I was 17 and had him at 18..it was unplanned but looknig back I'm so glad. It was rough for me and my husband getting through college and caring for a baby but we totally managed. I love being a young mother. I feel that I have more energy and I'm more tuned in to my child. I'm currently pregnant with my second baby, which was planned and my son just turned 4 a couple of days ago. The way I see it when I'm 40 I'll have a 22 year old and 18 year old. I'll still be young enough to enjoy life with my husband and still young enough to do lots ot things that I feel maybe couples who are older when they have children won't beable to enjoy. But it's different for everyone. Some people need to wait and aren't ready at all for children young. It's a huge responsibility and everyone should wait until they are ready. But when suprised like we were, it can turn out to be a wonderfully unexpected thing.
2006-09-07 06:49:29 · answer #4 · answered by ktpb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The right age is different for each person. I'm more curious as to why career women want to have children in the first place? What's the point of having a child someone else is going to raise? Why work so hard only to turn around and give that money to someone to take care of your child?
I think if you are going to have children regardless of your age, you need to be the one raising them...not a day care center.
I had my first child when I was 20 and my fifth when I was 27. In my era women married right out of high school and began their families immediately. And they stayed home to raise them. Our career was homemaker...wife...mother... Would I do it the same way again if I had a choice? In today's world, no. Living in the same time period, I would do the same thing.
2006-09-07 06:15:28 · answer #5 · answered by Blue 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Younger age
I had my first when I was 29 turned 30 12 days later!
Had my second at 32 and third/LAST at 37.
The first two were OK but the LAST one really puts us through the moves!!! Constantly GOING GOING GOING!
Didn't get married until I was 28. He was 24. Would have been nice if we had met earlier when we were both YOUNGER! LOL
The older a person gets, the harder more difficult it is. Physically, mentally & emotionally.
2006-09-07 06:14:26 · answer #6 · answered by jennifersuem 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My Wife and I had 4 children before we were 30 and now that I am 59 I find that my youngest is 33 , which isn't too big an age gap and we were also able to enjoy our kids as they grew, and we were growing with them.
The reason we had our kids early is simple.!
We couldn't wait to have a family, and we couldn't keep our hands off each other.
2006-09-07 06:14:18 · answer #7 · answered by pa69oldfart 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had my first at 28, and my 2nd at 30. I had them right when I wanted to.
In my early 20's I was too selfish to even consider having a kiddo. It was all about ME. I wanted to do what I wanted, when I wanted. It would have been unfair to my child, if I would of had one then. So, I waited.
That being said, I really wish I had the energy now, that I did then. My kids wear me out. I get excited when I stay up until 11 at night..
2006-09-07 06:08:28 · answer #8 · answered by Jillian B 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would say in the 30-25 category, That way your more experienced on life and plus you've had more of a time to grow in your career so your likely to be earning quite a bit more.
Those freaks that have kids when they re 16 though just need to go and die or something
2006-09-07 06:04:18 · answer #9 · answered by zeem3333 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
25-30 would definitely a healthy time for a couple to have children.Older than that might increase your chances for having a Down Syndrome baby due to aging and polluted ovums.This can actually effected the genome of the fetus.
2006-09-07 06:42:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋