hi friends or readers i have been left alone by my girlfriend should say ex girl now i am not able to take her out of my thoughts, we have spend enough time with each other for ten years now every place i go i recollect all the thoughts
the thoughts of her are tearing am apart and not able to concentrate on my work and my performance have shown a decline and i hate that
now that i am trying to look out for better things in life on a positive node but all of a sudden i am in her thoughts and i end up messing up the whole thing
ami dipressed or is it just a natural reaction ?
the insidence happen about 3 months ago .
2006-09-06 22:47:11 · 14 answers · asked by raj 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Well, I assume you are still in love with her. If it has been 10 yrs together, did you say, well, that is like a marriage and you just got a divorce 3 months ago. Some are not even married that long these days. Why didn't you ever marry? It is easier to lose someone seems like if there is no commitment on paper, but that might just be my old ways. I have been married before, but I did not want them back. You just will have to give yourself time. Time to heal, time to meet other people. If you want her, can you go and get her back, or too late? Can you write her a love letter and ask her to come back. If not, have you thought about moving and getting another job in a new town and just start all over again. The loss of a loved one the most hurt outside of a death. In fact it is like one. Just get out and meet new people and give yourself time. If you go out with old friends, you will just talk and drown yourself in your own misery. Get out and do other things, fun things. It is natural reaction, and I am sure there is someone somewhere going through the same thing, that might enjoy your company. It might be the right one this time. Good luck. Don't drown in your self pity, get out and look around. It will do you good . There is plenty of fish in the ocean.
2006-09-06 22:54:09 · answer #1 · answered by shardf 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just need to take it easy. The ache will reduce after a while. Some people are take longer than others.
What about go out to meet some new friends? or go to somewhere you ever been before for a holiday?
I hope you feel better soon.
2006-09-07 05:56:00 · answer #2 · answered by Piggy&Jazz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be more positive . You look to me like youre faithfull . But remember no body is now .[dont think iam old iam not ]but i had toooooooooooooooo many shocks till now .Maybe your girlfriend left you but thats not the end of life you will survive .No body was died for his girlfriend. 10years is a big number! i know cuz my friend left me after 2 years and i am in a terrible mood. but i realized no one worth it .Discover your new talents be more friendly and get new friends but dont try to have agirlfriend now wait and this time will come sooner or latter it will come.
2006-09-07 06:49:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not easy 2 let go of memories of 10 years in 10 days or 10 weeks or even 10 months...
memories take time 2 erase...
time heals da wounds dat r left behind...
u need 2 carry on in life...& accept dis as destiny...
if there was love....she wudnt have parted from u...
maybe there were some reasons dat made her took dis decision...
she loved u...for no1 stays 2gether for 10 years...
respect her decision...& dont hurt urself...
i know its a hard time for u...but u will gave 2 face it...
leave everything 2 destiny...love never dies...if its there in ur desiny...she'l be back....but if not...she sure is gonna remain somewhere in ur heart...& u shud cherish da memories...
2006-09-07 06:29:47 · answer #4 · answered by moooooooovin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i culd say it's both but hang in there,i know you can get over it just go out and do things that you enjoy the most.Get that ratbag out of your mind and move on.You have a life also.
2006-09-07 05:55:49 · answer #5 · answered by Western babe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's natural, just gotta go out and do things to keep her out of your mind. In time, she will just be a good memory...or a bad one....but eventually you'll be fine. Be strong, buddy
2006-09-07 05:50:33 · answer #6 · answered by gnomus12 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do something for fun, If you have friends make a night out on the town.
2006-09-07 06:25:42 · answer #7 · answered by zeena 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should not force yourself to forget her,face it bravely....This is the best solution
And maybe you can be more concetrated on your work,and if you success in your job,you will make the gal regret for not choosing you,not choosing the best man on the world.....
2006-09-07 06:06:14 · answer #8 · answered by Carmen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just do things that helps take your mind of her. i have recently split up with my boyfriend and i feel the same. i find that not being alone and keeping people around you helps alot. do things to keep your mind occupied and i also like to listen to the song "not missing you" by stacy orrico it helped me alot. good luck x
2006-09-07 05:54:47 · answer #9 · answered by sensual 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first thing 2 do,don't go where d place u together go b4,try not 2 think d' past make ur self busy ,,makefriends,
2006-09-07 05:51:44 · answer #10 · answered by mari-mar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋