why do couples when having problems with each other some look at the other and only keeps the eye only on the bad the other does or did never on the good?
2006-09-06 22:44:30 · 9 answers · asked by what is the good word? 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Because the bad hurts, and is more easily remembered than the good. Why do newspapers only print the bad news and not the news. That is what gets the attention.
Good luck
2006-09-14 21:25:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Could be the limiting sightedness caused by the eye patch. Just kidding, I couldn't resist.
People listen to judge and have poor communication. Just reiterate that you need the person to look at the good as well as the bad. People are dysfunctional, but communication levels the playing field.
You are so right, accentuate the positive and just keep pushing it through! That is what I do! I try not to let negativity and criticism win or have its way. People seem to like to be punished and feel comfort in conflict. It takes a big person to work through and focus on the good. Keep doing that, okay? K.
2006-09-07 05:55:51 · answer #2 · answered by shannonlilia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We are just human, aren't we?
We always think "it's the other party, i'm okay." Partly, the solution is that we should learn to accept the blame sometimes.
Sometimes it's wise not to talk about the burning issue at the time when there is tension. When your partner is in a good mood, try to iron out your problem.
2006-09-07 06:07:55 · answer #3 · answered by Tom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
couples can get on each others nerves. They must be able to communicate calmly about everything. There seems to be a lot of non-communicators out there.
2006-09-07 05:56:28 · answer #4 · answered by winkcat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If they only looked at the good they wouldn't have anything to fight over.
2006-09-07 05:52:22 · answer #5 · answered by silverman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We always talk about ten bad things for every one good. I dont know why we all do it, but we do.
2006-09-07 05:53:01 · answer #6 · answered by James S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Human nature, everyone wants to blame everyone else, no one wants to admit they are also in the wrong.
2006-09-07 05:46:18 · answer #7 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If one or other sacrifice his or her own interests for their counterpart, then there is no gap between them.
2006-09-07 06:02:29 · answer #8 · answered by mangayarkarasi K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to devert the attention away from your-self.....
2006-09-07 05:53:26 · answer #9 · answered by outback 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋