2006-09-06 22:35:34 · 22 answers · asked by meshack m 1 in Dining Out ➔ Other - Dining Out
Hi,
I've disregarded the folly that is dating co-workers and I would like to know if you're up for some extremely awkward moments everyday for the next 2-3 years?
2006-09-06 22:37:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would recommend not asking a co-worker out. Just for the fact that if it doesn't work out, there will be tension and make your working environment hard. But if you do ask a co-worker out, I would just start up a friendly conversation to lead up to the question. Ask if he/she has any plans for the weekend. Just say something like "Well, I was just wondering if maybe you'd like to go get dinner maybe, Friday evening." If he/she accepts, then great! If he/she declines, just say something like " Oh, ok. Well, maybe we could do it another time then." And slowly make your way out of the conversation. That way he/she will think everything is fine and it wont make things akward. If you take a decline to heart, then it will make your work environment akward with this person.....goodluck!!!
2006-09-07 06:58:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are no universal rules about asking someone out and no right or wrong way of doing it - it depends on the two individuals involved. Always treat the other person with respect and consideration and make them feel comfortable.
I'm afraid I can't tell you exactly what to say but learning a script wouldn't help, as you have no idea what the other person will say. In general, it's best to be clear and direct, as in - would you like to come to the cinema with me on Saturday night? Or, would you like to go out for dinner? Asking them to go out with you might scare them off - it's best to suggest one date, rather than a relationship.
It can also be really useful to get to know them first, as a friend. Relationships that work are almost always based not just on physical attraction, but on friendship - having things in common, having a shared sense of humour, enjoying the same hobbies and activities.
If you get to know someone as a friend first, asking them out is no big deal at all - it's just an extension of your existing relationship. You can build up to it slowly: just start being a bit more flirtatious and affectionate and suggesting more romantic activities. If they're not interested in anything more than friendship, they'll make it clear. At best, you'll end up with a partner, at worst a friend.
2006-09-07 07:04:37 · answer #3 · answered by heatherlynnmorrow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might be for lunch but just think of the othere side as well. U said u r co-worker, so its better to keep up the corporate culture. Just think about it...
2006-09-07 08:56:54 · answer #4 · answered by jack n 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think co-workers dating ever works out. I know it wouldn't with me for certain. Work and dating don't mix.
2006-09-07 05:38:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't unless you don't like your job or mind co-workers talking about you.
2006-09-07 05:41:54 · answer #6 · answered by N3WJL 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the people who said that it's not a good idea to mix your work life with your private life. If things don't work out, it's going to be very awkward for both of you at work. And if it does work out, it's going to be very awkward for everyone else at work. There's a reason why many companies don't allow inter-office relationships.
2006-09-07 05:42:37 · answer #7 · answered by grahamma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. I dated a woman briefly that worked where I did. It didn't work out and things were uncomfortable after the relationship ended.
2006-09-07 05:39:08 · answer #8 · answered by tw0cl0n3m3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's really not a good ideal. What if you fall madly in love and then things go haywire, do you want to quit your job?
2006-09-07 05:42:13 · answer #9 · answered by Ladeebug71 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi! I just wondered, do you like casual sex? Well, why not take me out for a drink and a meal first?
2006-09-07 05:41:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋