2006-09-06 22:12:38 · 24 answers · asked by Hawaiianlady 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First of all remember this.. U cant steal.. someone.. that didnt want .. to be stolen..... He was the one that was married.. he was the one with the family and he's the one that made the commitment to love, and forsake all others.. So he is mostly to blame.. he should of protected his marriage and his family from this , instead he decided to jump on the bandwagon...
My first husband left me for another woman, someone he worked with, and we have two sons together, he thought she was "special" something great.. it only took a few months for him to realize that she wasnt as special as he thought she was, she even cheated on him .. So, what goes around comes around.. remember that..
2006-09-06 22:16:59 · answer #1 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ohh I know all about that, that did happen to me, by a supposed friend of mine, our kids used to play together, after 16 years of marriage I was that silly I had no idea it was happening, they are now married and i left with the children, we live along way away but sometimes not far enough, yes, it does break the family apart, but can you really stop it? I know now I see my ex husband in a whole new light, there are things that I payed no attention to that if I had of maybe things would of been different. As far as what you can do? try sitting down with him, if you still love him, talk to him and find out if there is somthing that you are not doing, maybe just spending some time together just the two of you, trying to find the love that you both once shared.
Good luck
2006-09-07 05:17:28 · answer #2 · answered by jaynemynx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No body can really steal your husband away from his relationship .. this is something that he was willing to do. According to your last question you mentioned that he was with another gf.. it was a joint decision.
Right now you just need to do what is best for you 4 children, give them the love, stability and home they deserve. I am really sorry you are going through this .. but there is a light at the end of the tunnel.
I would however suggest family counseling for the children and you as well. Find away to stand strong and always make your children the priority in your life.
Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brilliant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel
2006-09-07 05:14:52 · answer #3 · answered by jaredsmommy2004 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A family will only break apart if both of you let it fall apart, but if both of you still want to make it work, then, with God's help and a good therapist (for both of you), it may be mended! First of all, do not say anything to your husband that you may regret later on (like bad words, insulting words) continue to show respect and show him that you're a lady! It is true that it is HIS FAULT! But look at yourself as well, maybe there are somethings that you do or don't do that pushed him away: do you build his ego? Do you try to look good for him? Do you talk? How's your sex life? If you love him, "fight" for him. But if you realize that you don't, then let it go.
2006-09-07 05:29:28 · answer #4 · answered by Kellybelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your husband allowed himself to get stolen, then he isnt worth the bother, why do women always feel that they have to blame the other women, the men usually are the liars and the deceitful ones i dont know the full story but dont you think its best for your kids if you just move on, becasue trying to get your husband back is asking for truoble becasuse if he has done this to you clearly his not worth the bother
2006-09-07 05:19:47 · answer #5 · answered by Emiliana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to move on, but fight for your kids. If your husband wants to break apart the family, he can do it by himself. You keep your family intact. You dont need him to enjoy a loving family that you created!
2006-09-07 05:18:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pray, pray, pray. There are many ways to deal but through prayer, God can comfort, direct and protect you from further hurt. Here are some helpful, healing scriptures for you.
Matthew 21:22
Romans 8:28
Matthew 6:33
Also, only God can take care of your spouse and the home wrecker in the way they should and deserve to be taken care of, so cast all your cares upon HIM, because He cares for you. ~ 1 Peter 5:7
Bless you and your children and family honey.
2006-09-07 05:33:35 · answer #7 · answered by shannonlilia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy a shot gun n blow his head apart...don let her have him.
On second thoughs you have two options.
i) Let him goto hell. Carry on with whatever you have with you. Take care of your kids and yourself. What would you have done if he met with a car accident and died one day?
ii) Hit him with all you've got. Make him feel that he did a big mistake by deserting you. Got to a court.
After all its all upto you. And if you dont mind doing a bit of investigation find out what made him leave you....was it you or was it him. Then go for the apt option above.
2006-09-07 05:23:15 · answer #8 · answered by Lord Of Lust 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, no-one can "steal" your husband even though it may feel like that. The truth is, rightly or wrongly, he left of his own accord. If he didnt want to go, he would still be there.
This may sound harsh but its the truth. I am not commenting on whose "fault" it is or anything like that. I dont know the situation obviously, but facts are facts. If he had wanted to stay, it wouldnt have mattered what "SHE" did.
2006-09-07 05:18:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you need to come down to reality. Your HUSBAND CHOSE TO CHEAT. No one forced him to stick a wiener in the other bun. You want to be mad? Fine, get out of denial and be mad at him.
Now, you have to decide if you are going to divorce him or if you are going to take him back. If you are going to work on it, it will be just that, work. You two will need therapy, him to learn to be faithful and you to learn to truly forgive or it will eat away at you until you aren't worth being around.
If you are going to get a divorce, you need to choose your own attorney, never let him have any say in this. You need to have him leave, and you will still need counseling to learn to trust again.
I am sorry, because I know this hurts, I know firsthand. But men will say anything to a woman to get the panties off, so you will never truly know what he told her and you can't blame her. For all you know he said you were dead. Whatever the case, he wasn't raped, she didn't hold him down and give him Viagra and tie him up and rape him, he hopped on that ride himself.
2006-09-07 05:27:16 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋