Been in a serious relationship (living together) boyfriend 9 years older than i am (my age 27) been on the pill for 9 years and now i want a baby.. Hormones working overtime... My boyfriend is divorced and has a 12yr old son we have talked about a baby and we are currently trying to concieve.. sometimes on occasion he pulls out before and when i ask him why he says he doesn't know.. Example we had sex yesterday and he didn't pull out and this morning he did?? What should i do....
2006-09-06 21:47:29 · 12 answers · asked by Cins 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
get the ring first!
sometimes worries get in the way of conception!
2006-09-06 21:50:30 · answer #1 · answered by jake cigar™ is retired 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Friend, if ur serious of having a child,first get married . This will make ur relationship stronger and u will be free of any doubts and troubles from ur mind and this will let u get conceived! If he's pulling out ,then there is something fishy in his behavior, talk to him frankly and may be he is happy with the free sex and doesn't want to have again a child! Talk to him ,this can only solve the problem and remember to ask him for marriage! All the Best
2006-09-07 05:01:04 · answer #2 · answered by Princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rethink forsure. He is 50% or less in this obviously & that isnt good for a family, he hasnt married you, he is divorced & dont thik he wouldnt do the same to you as he did to her. He can call her a bit** all he wants but he made her a bit** & he will do the same to you. Maybe you should ask why you want a kid, maybe its to tie him down, it worked awhile for the other girl. I have 2 kids 11 & 13, I have been married 13years. It was all my husbands ides a start a family, I had dreams & then after him pleading with me I gave in & still had trouble getting him to come home after work. Men are a**holes. I had to beat him up & make him so scared of me & then kick him out for awhile to straighten him out. He has gotten use to the idea now, but was it worth all the stress I went thru & all the hurt I still carry-NO. A smart girl with no kids would date men well off that can buy her as many shoes as she wants & not have to share them with a baby. I would die or kill for my kids. But this is a scary world, you will regret spending every second protecting them from it & you will if your a good mom. So the answer is run, run, run. Shoes make you happier then a family & if they hurt your feet you can throw them away with out getting arrested:) Please listen!
2006-09-07 05:02:41 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be that he is just pulling out because he is used to it.... but you may want to seriously discuss whether or not he is truely ready. Maybe he's nervous but doesn't want to disappoint you. How long have you been trying? I know people who tried for close to year before she became pregnant.... of course if you weren't trying you'd probably already be pregnant by now :-P
2006-09-07 04:52:41 · answer #4 · answered by uke9999 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh puhlease! If you were serious, you'd get married. You may be, but he has free sex, someone to cleanup after him and the last thing he wants is to have a kid with you, just look at his weiner pulling out and you will see that. Unless you are blind.
2006-09-07 04:53:53 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do sex in your fertile days , that is 10 days after your menses and then do it continously for 14-16 days and see if you are able to conceive, Maybe the problem is , you have been on pills for long time so that hormone is still in your body. chek www.planetayurveda.com and seek ayurvedic help
2006-09-07 04:58:42 · answer #6 · answered by aarzooji a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think maybe your guy is having secounds thoughts, but, he knows you want this to happen, I mean you said he has a pre- teen and starting all over is very scary, Believe me I kinda know.......... Talk to him about why he does this, and ask him if he is sure he wants to do this, babies and children are alot of resopsiblitlies, talk to him and maybe you can find out why he does this.
2006-09-07 07:06:05 · answer #7 · answered by crazy2have3kids 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he is having second thoughts about the baby plan.I would hold off plans till he is on the same page as you ,it would be a shame if he waited till you were pregnant before he was honest.
2006-09-07 04:55:48 · answer #8 · answered by stephanie n 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he pulls out, he is not ready to have another baby.
2006-09-07 04:50:35 · answer #9 · answered by Jillian B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wht does it mean you dont understand why hes pulling out?...Do you need to be sooo brilliant to make out that he dosent want what you want. not just talk but make him realise what your intentions are.
2006-09-07 05:05:47 · answer #10 · answered by Lord Of Lust 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋