Why have I always been the victim of so much hate?

Question

Every since I was a child. My mother did it, my step father did it. Everyone in school has done it. All through life, through the military, in jobs, in public, through friends who have back-stabbed me. I can't figure out what I've done to deserve all of this. They say on the news that the terrorist breed hate in the middle east, but we do here in the good 'ol U.S of A. Why all the hate?

Answer 1

Because people have problems in their own lives and they get satisfaction out of making other people suffer with them. They have someone to share in the pain and the hate. So they do it to others and in return those people feel hate and pain, so they do it to others as well. Its a cycle, a never ending cycle.

Answer 2

You're grown up... you're an adult. You're no longer a child who cannot do anything about physical or mental abuse. Find ways to counter what hurts you. Either you can avoid the people who abuse or betray you, or confront them. Somehow you'll have to protect yourself. Every living thing does that to survive. However, there's always a reason as to why those people hate you. Sometimes there are things you do that you're not aware of about its unpleasant side which other people sees. Well, you might want to reflect on the things you've done in the past and find reasons as to why it caused them to hate you... and probably you want to change somehow. You didn't say about yourself and what you normally do, or how you even interact with other people. Well.......

Answer 3

Maybe life is trying to teach you something. Take the hate and learn something from it. It will help you realize what you DON'T want to be.

Maybe life is trying to tell you that you need new friends or a new career. Try to not surround yourself with negative people. It will make your life easier.

Try and learn from the hate that you got from your parents. Use it as an example of what NOT to do with your own children.

Hate is everywhere. You can't get rid of it but you can choose to reduce the hate in your life by choosing the people you surround yourself with. All you can do is try and use it to your advantage and try not to let it get you down. Sometimes its not your fault. I don't know if you believe in karma but I believe that if you keep doing positive things, good things will come to you, maybe not right away but one day they will.

Keep your head up! Hate breeds hate. Stay positive :)

Answer 4

Because life is what it is. You can not have good without the bad; life without death, kindness without hate, black without white...the world must be balanced. You are not the only victim of hate, we all are. If you are human living on this earth then you will always be a victim of hate. It doesn't make sense I know. But all I can suggest is spread more love. Don't give in to the hatred. Learn from it and spread love and kindness. People make fun of the Hippies but in reality they had the right idea!

Answer 5

Well from psychological point of view. First look at your humble self clearly and see if you are ugly then ask your parent if you came to this world by mistake. May be they were not expecting you. And the rest depends largely on your interactions with other felows. Just check your self or may be it might be your own perception it couldn be true. Try and re adjust your self may be you are expecting people just hate for no sake. Feel free and ask just those around you to tell you BAD things about You.
Cheer up Buddy

Answer 6

Maybe because your mother and stepfather victimized you. I was treated the same way, and I found that other people victimized me throughout my life...it was like I had "abuse me" tattooed on my forehead.

What ended it was facing up to the original problem and refusing to take any more you-know-what from my parents. It took ending my relationship with my father completely and I rarely speak with my mother, but every so often I catch her taking a shot at me and I make sure to set her straight right away.

In other words, you have to face your original tormentors and be assertive, and then that "victim" thing goes away and people stop playing games with you, because you aren't letting them anymore.

Clear as mud, huh? Sorry I couldn't be more helpful for your situation specifically. Good luck :-)

Answer 7

Get over it and do something with yourself that doesnt require people praising you.
You dont get on with mom and dad? don't talk to them or rely on them for anything.
Your friends suck? probably arent your friends anyway people tend to be to self obsessed these days anyway its probably nothing ot do with you.
Military sucks? what did you expect really?

Maybe its time to make some changes in your life. Ive recently been going through the same stuff you are and have been dealing better with the mindset of "take care of yourself first" you should be all that matters right now and believe it when people start to see that you arent into all the petty games and have your **** together they will start to respect you more. give it a try

Answer 8

I agree with the first answer.

You can be a victim or you can choose not to. Sounds like you chose to be a victim. Lots of people have hard childhoods, I can guarantee you, you would not have survived mine. I am not a victim, though, I choose who I deal with and how I handle my life. You have a choice too.

Answer 9

Hey the good people always feel the hurt more cause they try not to hurt others. People who "creat the hate" expect it back and therefore do not really pay much notice to it.
sorry about any spelling errors.:)

Answer 10

don't mean to be cruel, but for so many people to treat you this way, do you think you are possibly to blame. could it be that you are the one that needs to change. just try making some changes, have a positive attitude, be true to yourself and treat others the way you wish to be treated. didn"t mean to turn things around, but i find it odd that anyone could have so many people treating them this way unless they attract these kinds of people.
good luck