Just broke up with my boyfriend of 2 years. Engaged for 7 months. I am not sad or anything and that has me perplexed (sp?). I don't know what kind of answers I am looking for, just tell me what you think about a serious relationship death. Sudden death of a relationship. I am interested to know what you think.
2006-09-06 20:42:58 · 16 answers · asked by pureblessingfromabove 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
From from some of the answers i read here it brings to mind the old saying "in the land of the blind the one eyed man would be king..." relationships "die" as you put it because of three main reasons; pride, selfishness and impatience. You (or him) may have been impatient to get this started before you learned each other. You or him may have been pushed the wrong way and decided "no more" because of something that hit the pride button and then there is just plain old selfishness. "waaaa i want this from a relationship i want that and she isnt giving it to me so i'll look elsewhere wwwaaaaa" There is no perfect person there are better choices, better suited people for us that uniquely fits our personality better than the last one but the bottom line is relationships simply dont work on thier own they're not a steam engine you have to make the relationship work and it HAS to be mutual. One cannot "make" it work. Sorry about your luck i just went through the same thing. Im okay with the loss but trust me i am doing some serious reflection as to why i pick the women i pick because that is usually where the problem lies. Maybe your picker is out of focus.
2006-09-08 21:50:04 · answer #1 · answered by metalsoft@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all know that "real" love cant be turned on and off like a faucet.. so if either of u have that capability of one day being in love then the next not being, then u were never really in love in the first place, more of an infactuation with each other.. Relationships go into sudden death with atleast one person in that relationship doesnt have all the right components needed to have a long lasting relationship.. and no matter how much the other person really does love that person, and has all the right components of having a lasting relationship.. u just can never love someone enough for 2 people .. so u need to be really picky about the people u plan on marrying and because just like dating, if u choose the wrong person eventually it will fall into sudden death..
2006-09-06 22:04:47 · answer #2 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Relationships are like plants. If you do not feed them and nourish them they die. The majority of relationships fail because two people stop enjoying each other. After so many times of doing the same stuff it gets boring. The key is to keep new in the relationship. Hold the interest of your partner by finding something each day to make it different than the others. Even simple things can keep a relationship strong.
Remember the fires that flamed in the beginning and do not let the disappointments in life dampen that flame. Shut off the outside world after 9PM and concentrate on what makes your relationship stronger. Those friends and family things should never get priority over your mate.
2006-09-06 21:39:53 · answer #3 · answered by hardnose 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are more reasons for relationships falling apart than I have had hot dinners, believe me (I have been married and divorced three times). All you can do is try and not think about the negative side of the break up. Try to remember the great times you had together, the good feelings you shared and why you fell for that person in the first place. Life is not static and we all have to move on through its different periods, you are not the exact same person that you were two years ago and you will be different again in another two years. Just try and get the most enjoyment from each phase of your life so that in later years you can think back over your life and say to yourself "I don't regret anything"
2006-09-06 20:59:26 · answer #4 · answered by U.K.Export 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There can be a lot of things that can end the relationship .. some things are the obvious, cheating, mental or physical abuse, no longer able to communicate, mental issues but then people just change. The best way to find out what happen to your relationship is to ask him if you are not sure.
Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brilliant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel
2006-09-06 20:46:53 · answer #5 · answered by jaredsmommy2004 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have had a relation that was since last seven years. Then she decided to marry.
She was engaged but not happy, leaving or thinking of leaving me.
She got married but she was not happy, leaving or thinking of leaving me.
That marriage is bad for her for two reasons;
1) He was not doing well and
2) She misses me terribly, just the way I miss her.
She decided to go to other country so that she can earn well and support her family. Now the problem is bigger, she finds it difficult to get a job in a different country, her man does not like this, communication with him / me is expansive and misses me terribly.
See, engagement then marriage and them migration to another country has slowly tried to put this relation to a death, but can it die? No!
I can not forget her and she can not forget me.
Are you doing something that’s hard for you to do? I suggest, if the answer is yes, stop it! Before you reach a point of no return!!
2006-09-06 21:19:51 · answer #6 · answered by ~Raju~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
properly over summer season smash my buddies' who're relationship had the terrific relationship concern in the summertime, because of the fact which you're normally no longer doing something and you have time to spend jointly. i might make as lots time to spend jointly as available, and if she makes a decision that b/c you're at your grandma's for a rapid time that she does not desire as much as now you, then it is her fault! you will discover different ladies. have faith me, you would be on reflection at a majority of those concerns which you had as a 13-twelve months-old and basically think of "Wow, that became into kinda extraordinary to place lots emphasis on..." no longer downing your relationship, yet you will need different girlfriends too. i'm specific it will be nice, do no longer difficulty too lots! Have a great summer season!!
2016-10-14 10:06:44 · answer #7 · answered by hultman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your are not Sad!! Maybe you did not love him to hang on to him!
I don't know your' age. boy age slower than girls! sounds like your' around 18 or 19. Take life slowly. True, life is too short for somethings. But one day you'll find your love companion, that last a life time. One day, I was coming back from Vietnam, I saw this young girl. We saw each other! and that was it! we are hitting 40 years of marriage, and a lot of grandkids!! So, hang in there, and you'll find him!!
2006-09-06 20:52:06 · answer #8 · answered by alfonso 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
passion dies,feeling dies... relationship wont die...
Need someone mature enough to know that relationship is like wine.. they longer they keep, the better it will be..
You need to know that behind the pretty or gorgeous face, there is something about the gal or guy u need to appreciate, when u able to appreciate the bad and good ..that is when u truly know and truly love them..if not it might jus be..LUST
2006-09-06 20:49:16 · answer #9 · answered by myshop258 l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think, well actually I know that people change and grow. And unless your partner is willing to accept your change or to grow with you, that can dissolve a relationship.
2006-09-06 20:45:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋