im a straight man, i like girls. but i also kind of feel attracted to guys. Im not attracted to the girly guys or gay guys. im just attracted to regular guys or "macho" guys but i dont think in an intimate way. am i bi or is this normal? like sometimes i my mind i will say "hes hot"
2006-09-06 20:40:21 · 24 answers · asked by calidude5592000 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
yes, in a non sexual way but as in camaraderie or intellectual ,business, sports and various similar common pursuits .... never heard of going out with the boys ? they aren't supposed to be cheating on their wives. A non sexual attraction for intelligence seems entirely normal to me for almost anyone.
There's nothing gay in an honest acknowledgment of an others obvious charisma or good looks as long as that's all it is!
2006-09-06 20:55:36 · answer #1 · answered by dogpatch USA 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The only reason straight men don't always think 'he's hot' when they see a good looking man, is because they have been brainwashed since early childhood to only acknowledge good looking girls, not other men. Since you say that you don't think about them in an intimate way, then thinking another man is 'hot' is a very ordinary complimentary way of looking at another man. You could equally think that a leopard or a sunset is very beautiful, but it certainly doesn't mean you would want to mate with one!
Girls are normally quite happy to compliment each other's good looks, because they didn't have that brainwashing. Men always know when another man is great looking, they just normally pretend not to notice it, or are too afraid to comment in case they are thought to be gay. There's nothing gay in acknowledging beauty.
2006-09-07 03:14:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Most gay men are not effeminate looking or acting, which is why you don't know that you are probably surrounded by them on a daily basis.
You are perfectly normal, men are sexual creatures, and while straight men probably have no real desire to do anything about it, its ok to think another guy is hot. I wouldn't say that out loud unless your community is open to speaking the truth without fear of reprisal.
2006-09-07 02:06:28 · answer #3 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've had straight men tell me how handsome I was. It's really no big deal for a guy who knows who he is and what he likes. I am gay and I find some women very attractive but it doesnt mean that I am going to go and jump in bed with them. Its normal dude. Dont worry about it.
2006-09-06 20:45:54 · answer #4 · answered by kingofnarniaforever 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely. There are tons of guys out there that consider themselves straight, but who are attracted to other men, ans not just sexually. Some feel more comfortable around guys, especially in different circumstances, like in the locker room, or the gym.
2006-09-06 20:47:22 · answer #5 · answered by urbania05 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I may quote a movie from thirty years ago, called "Boys In The Band..."
'The right wine and the right music, there are damn few guys that aren't curious.'
I've bedded many guys who were "straight." They all had orgasms, and I ****** each and every last one of them.
Most people are neither 100% gay or straight, but rather are somewhere on the sexuality continuum...
I myself am 100% gay. But I'm rare.
2006-09-08 11:06:47 · answer #6 · answered by TurboLover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
explain "atracted to". Maybe you find them something to work toward as in exercizing more and building up your body. If you find youself attracted to the same sex in a sexual way you are experiencing homosexual feelings. You're probably bi. Go talk to someone you trust regarding these feelings so you don't start experiencing any self hatred. Enjoy your life.
2006-09-06 20:45:56 · answer #7 · answered by reme_1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can be attracted in the same way a female can look at another female and say she's very pretty.
As guys we usually don't say these kinds of things out of pride.
2006-09-06 21:56:29 · answer #8 · answered by closetcoon_fan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think "shes hot" and also "hes hot" then there could be two reasons. Make sure whether you are saying "hes hot" out of envy or attraction. If its outta envy then its not bi and if its attraction then definitely its bi.
2006-09-06 20:47:56 · answer #9 · answered by Lord Of Lust 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think its normal for a guy to find another guy hot i think that if u find another guy hot and Ur straight u probably just kind of admire that guy or want his body for yours or something like that!
2006-09-06 21:35:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋