Ok, odd question I know, (please read details)?

Question

The facts- (The people, my ex-boyfriend and his wife)
They are 3000+ miles away.
They have made it very clear that he does not nor has ever cared about me or our daughter.
Has told me many times to leave them alone.
Says that our daughter is not his, which is completely not true.
We have all fought many times, and called eachother many bad things, yet they always contact me and start the fights.
She finds as many ways possible to call me a $lut and tell me I am the childish one. Yet she is always the one to start with me. (I don't think she knows what harrasement is.)
She has emailed my cell phone telling me that I am a $lut.
He has told me he doesn't want custody, visitation, or to pay child support.
I have moved on, all I want from him is to pay child support and to leave me alone.
I am sorry, I just don't get it.

Why can't they just let it go? Why can't they move on? What do they want from me?

Please be nice.

Just for added knowledge, I have filed for child support. I did it the Monday after he left.
Also, they aren't calling me, they are emailing me.

Answer 1

Damn, that's a rough one. Without knowing all the parties involved personally, I can only give you an answer from rough experience. I have a feeling that your ex is bringing you up in conversation, or during arguments with her. This focuses her anger away from him, and onto you. She is hateful because " her man" has a child with someone else and she may not be able to handle that. If you want to move on and get whats coming to you, I suggest you do 3 things;
1) Get a new phone number and don't give it to them.
2) Contact a lawyer about child support. You will probably have to go to court on this one, because I have a feeling they/he will fight it.
3) Find yourself a GOOD guy who loves you and your daughter and enjoy the rest of your life.

Answer 2

REAL TALK: They both know that once child support goes through ( which i hope you have already got the ball rolling) That no matter how much they don't like you, or how much they want to be no part of this child's life-- that he will have no choice but to pay his dues... and let me tell you it can get very pricey-- BUT do not feel bad or guilty it takes two-- not three to make a baby... so just ignore what the girlfriend says-- I know its hard-- I have been there-- but what she is thinking is if he is broke and they are together then-- she will have to pick up the slack. . OHH WELL. If she want to be with this man then she has no choice but to accept all of his baggage. And by going through with child support even if he doesn't want to take responsibility he has to. REMEMBER-- YOUR ONLY RESPONSIBILITY IS TO YOUR BABY. Regardless of how mad, broke, or nasty it makes your baby daddy. I've been there, its hard road to take-- but it will pay off. Now sit back and watch.

Answer 3

If you are just wanting child support, you will need to put that in the court hands. As to the harrassment, I would not accept their phone calls at this moment and tell them to talk to your lawyer about the situation. In addition to that .. I would document all calls, save text messages they send you and keep a strict log regarding it. Visitation - would you really want your daughter subject to that type of behavior? I don't think they would treat her properly or know how to. Regarding if he is the father .. get a paternity test and end that fight all together.

Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brilliant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel

Answer 4

Ge court order for DNA test. Or have him sign his rights away but you won't get money, but if you want to get rid of him then money shouldn't be the problem. It's better for the child. You need to put her first. All they want to do is make your life more stress full so that your daughter will see and it will hurt her and make her frustrated. Just have him sign his rights away so when you find the right man and father to be of your child then he can adopt her and give her the security that she needs. Change your numbers and email so that they can not contact you or start taping your conversations with them to bring forth in the court if you ever go. Been through this and it's not worth you or your daughters feeling to go through this. It's better to have one parents who loves you than to have two that fight and argue all the time and make life miserable for her. Please don't let money be the object her, think of how you little girl feels to see you frustrated and stressed out, they feel what you do, and you may not think they now whats going one but they do may not understand it but they get the picture.

Answer 5

Hey Hun. I'm 23 years old, and i have a 2 year old daughter of my own. . . . the reason they are doing that to you is because they know is ticks you off, and really upsets you. What you do, is ignore them, never respond to them at all. If they call you, don't answer the phone (if they keep calling, it's harrassment). The text messaging, what i would do, is either have that shut off, or have their number blocked.. . . I hope this helps hun.

Answer 6

Sounds like a tough place to be. The best I can tell you is don't answer your phone or respond to them when they try to "pick" fights. We have a court system for a reason. USE IT!! You can recieve your child support through the courts, and if he would like to visit his child he can do it through there also with drop off points. With these there's no reason for you to have contact with him. You just have to be the bigger person here, and not answer or respond to them. Good luck!!

Answer 7

She's starting crap with you because They do not want you to file child support - I guess she thinks by calling you names -it will scare you away & make you give up

This is very stupid on her part & on his

Next time they call like that - get it recorded & bring it to your lawyer - You need to persue with filing for Childsupport - make him do a paternity test if you got to - then he will shutup
and so will she !

Good luck to you & do whats best for the child

Answer 8

The personal stuff is quite interesting, but the issue remains the legalities.

If he is the father of your child, he must share in her upbringing. If he refuses to share in caring for her, he is legally bound to share in the financial responsibility.

Don't get bogged down in their annoying little melodrama. You need to hire a lawyer and get this going in your direction.

Answer 9

File in court for child support, and tell them he is denying being the Father, the will have him take DNA.

Answer 10

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