Opinions about far-distance-relationships?

Question

I as a typical English gent living in the Neths (long story...) have a girlfriend living in Stockholm and i was wondering what the opinions are about that. Can love really conquer everything even over a great distance?

Me living in the Netherlands, (Province Limburg) Brunssum and her Living in Sweden Enskede (near Stockholm)

Answer 1

Long distance can be one of the greatest tests of a relationship but yes I feel like love can conquer all things. You just need to have faith in eachother, be honest, trust eachother and do as much as you can to remind yourself that it is worth it. It's hard but try to plan trips to see eachother, keep in touch with phone and email, (maybe learn how to implement a little phone sex ;) ) It is hard and if you ever feel yourself faltering, just remember how much she means to you. If it gets too hard or you meet someone else, be honest with her before you do anything because the biggest issue with long-distance is trust. It's hard not being able to see the person day in and day out and the missing can really eat away at you. I was in a long distance relationship when I was in college. It was really hard because we met during the summer a couple weeks before I had to leave so we didn't have the stability of any already set relationship. We were only two hours away so it's different then you but it was still really hard because of our school and work schedules, a month could go by before we could see eachother. I started to feel like I wasn't living my life and was just counting the days in between when I could see him. Going out with my friends wasn't as much fun as it used to be because I just wanted him to be there. I was also young and scared that I was committing myself to someone before I could even determine if we were serious because we basically "dated" long distance but remained exclusive because that was the only way we wanted it. It ended six months later and even though that doesn't seem long, he has been the love of my life since then. If you already had a stable relationship before you parted then I am sure you will fare much better. You just have to make sure that you stay faithful and that it is worth it but still live your life and don't let the distance rule you. It also helps if the two of you have some kind of future you can rely on. Like maybe plans to eventually be together in the same place. The hardest is when you are just long distance but you don't know if you will ever be in the same place again because if you can't make some kind of plans towards that then you wonder if it is really worth it. Stay strong and good luck!

Answer 2

Hmm, for a time. They say distance makes the heart grow fonder. Since I live in the states, I don't know how far apart the two of you live. I do know anything over an hour (from experience) soon becomes tiresome, and one of you will either decide to move closer, or break it off. Only time will tell.

Hope it works out!

Answer 3

I think so yes. It all depends if both of you will be able to make the necessary sacrifice to communicate or see each other. There is a saying that goes (although I am not aware whom did this came from) goes like "Absence makes the heart grow fonder". It has to be between BOTH parties otherwise you may end up just the only one who reaches out.....

Answer 4

I believe so especially if the relationship is forged before the distance can affect it. You two better have a healty amount of trust between.
Good luck though, it only can work for some people, I'm not one of those people.

Answer 5

For me, it wasn't love but my entire college savings that conquered the great distance. Having been there and now a 30-something college student (though still happily married to her) I wouldn't recommend it.

Answer 6

Can it?! I myself don't know? coz I'm in a distant - relationship too. I live in Alex, Egypt and my bf is in Cairo, Egypt and I mean it when I say we don't see each others AT ALL. He says that he loves me, but who knows? couldn't he be pranking on me?! There's only ONE thing that I know....Is that true and honest love can beat any obstacles and withstand the circumstances reguardless what they are.

I just wish you good luck in your far-disance-relationship and I hope it will be a happy everlasting one...Best of luck for both of you!!

Answer 7

If there is some future point where you'll both become more proximate, yes. If you'll always be very far apart then that's not much of a life, is it?

Answer 8

if it is true love no distance would matter because you will always be together in your hurt and distance only makes a heart grow fonder

Answer 9

i dont really believe so. i mean you can have a long distance relationship (like pen pals) but i dont think you ever really believe its real. like there are no consequences talking to a computer screen.

Answer 10

YEAH, ONLY IF U TWO ARE REAL SERIOUS ABOUT EACH OTHER..... IF U REALLY LOVE HER AND SHE REALLY LOVE U THINGS CAN WORK..... EVEN IN A LONG DISTANCE....