I have a friend, we have been friends forever but she gets really moody on me, takes her anger out on me, if she has the slightest problem, she takes it out on everyone around her, regardless of how much they try to be there for her. She gets Social Security and cannot work, but as far as I am concerned, her mental problems all have to do with her being a spoiled rotten only child who has the incapacity to relate to others, she is very self centered, wants to be the center of attention. I avoid her now, but I consider telling her that she is far too crazy to be my friend any more, to wash my hands of her. Everyone is walking away from her, Child Protective Services took her kids from her, her family has practically disowned her, all her friends walked away, her boyfriend sees other women because he cannot stsnd her. I feel that there are no excuses for her behavior, She is not seriously ill, like bipolar or schizophrenic, and she is aware of her actions. Any 1 out there w/ answers?
2006-09-06 19:13:56 · 9 answers · asked by clovischik2001@sbcglobal.net 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
It sounds like she is definitely the type of person that will bring you down if you stick around with her. However, I would be careful how you wash your hands of her... telling her that she's too "crazy" to be your friend anymore may not be the best way to go. Just slowly pull away, talk to her less and less and make yourself unavailable to her. Eventually if she asks whats going on then just tell her that you've both grown apart and your lives are going in seperate directions but that you wish her the best. Good luck!!
2006-09-06 19:17:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel sorry for her because I really feel like noone understands her disability. Her family should be ashamed as they should love her unconditionally and so should you. If she wasn't seriously i'll she would not be getting a check. I doubt if her mental state has very little to do with her being spoiled but the lack of her family's understanding. If everyone is walking away from her; now is the time when she needs you most. I would try to get her to go and seek councelling. Maybe she needs to change her meds. Sounds like her boyfriend is a jerk. People who don't have mental problems don't always understand. So what are you going to do just give up on her like the rest of her family?
2006-09-06 19:39:16 · answer #2 · answered by Busy Lady 2010 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you know she's not bipolar, schizophrenic, or ill in any other emotional way? Are you a doctor? If you don't want to be her friend, then don't. But, don't go acting all superior and consider yourself qualified to diagnose her problems. In one breath you say she has mental health issues, then you say there are no excuses for her behavior and that she's not seriously ill. Make up your mind.
2006-09-06 19:20:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she may not be a true friend to you but if you are a true friend to her then you should not leave her. she has nobody now, so only you can comfort her. she may ask you to get away from her but at least you know that you are there for her. when you have really done your part and she doesn't change, talk to her and tell her about how you feel then leave her alone. maybe, if she is still a bit sane, she will eventually realize what is wrong with her. she needs you now so don't leave her yet, not until you tell her how self-centered she has been..
2006-09-06 19:28:42 · answer #4 · answered by enigmaticenegue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, from one point of view, you should try and help her. On the other hand, if she is nothing but detrimental to you, then you need to leave her be!!
I have a friend who is like that--well, I *HAD* a friend like that. I chose to not be friends with her anymore not because of what other people said or did, but because she did nothing to my sanity but destroy it.
If you really love her, you can try and help her ... but she has to WANT the help. If she continues to be nothing but self-serving, I would call the friendship quits. You were not born to be her verbal punching bag or her babsitter.
However, from what you've described, she may actually have a mental health disorder, and it sounds like a borderline personality disorder. She may also be bipolar or have schizoprenia. The help that she needs you may not be able to give.
And although she may be aware of her actions, that doesn't mean that she can control them.
2006-09-06 19:23:08 · answer #5 · answered by Bachman-ette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-14 10:03:45 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do as a friend of her is be there for her. She has to want to change.
2006-09-06 19:19:05 · answer #7 · answered by WheelchairBA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, u should't do tt because she is the only friend u have got
2006-09-06 19:27:23 · answer #8 · answered by hisahito 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say stick it out and be there for her because if it were the other way around she would do it for you... ...right?
2006-09-06 19:34:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋