She wants to have sex and get serious but will not show me what she looks like. We talk almost on a daily basis... and I'm concerned she's not who she says she is.
2006-09-06 18:45:59 · 33 answers · asked by Realistic 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
No not normal!!!! Her gig is up.
2006-09-06 18:47:10 · answer #1 · answered by Mo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi! I emailed a guy for about a month. He made every excuse to not share a photo, even though I sent him one within a few days. When I pushed him for one, he sent one that was four years old and commented that he had gained fifty pounds since then, but would be willing to lose it. I was shocked when I saw the pic. He was already big, without the extra fifty! Anyway, I canceled our meeting. I felt bad and a bit superficial, but there has to be some attraction. I am physically fit and expect the same in a mate. I'd tell her that physical attraction is important to everyone and that you want to be able to picture who you are talking to, that you feel that you have been communicating long enough to have established some level of trust. I'd give her a week. If she doesn't cough up a picture, quit talking to her. Good Luck! After my experience, I refused to talk to guys who wouldn't send a pic.
2006-09-06 19:04:40 · answer #2 · answered by schweetums 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're probably right, and she's probably not who she says she is. She could be a guy, and it could all be an elaborate scheme against you. Believe it or not, people do that.
She also may be afraid of the way that she looks. If that's the case, she doesn't need to be talking about having sex with you.
I would tell her to either give you a picture or give you a good reason, and I would be very careful, because she sounds shady.
2006-09-06 18:48:35 · answer #3 · answered by Bachman-ette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is probably scared that you will reject her once you see what she really looks like. She may not be that ugly or fat, or maybe she is. I think she just has low self esteem. Has she seen your pic? Maybe she thinks you're better looking than her.
If she is young, the odds are that she has low self esteem. tell her that you dont care about the physical, now that you know her so well. But say " I only want to see what you look like cos otherwise it feels weird, cos I've got no-one to picture when im thinking of you.
Good Luck!
2006-09-06 18:54:25 · answer #4 · answered by NurseKaia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello there,(normal)been some months huh?well,i,m not saying what you feel is incorrect?might be also,but,from what you are saying here,it may be a girl thing!she may feel a little unsure of her self,low esteem?concerned with how she looks(unattractive)in her eye sight,or concern with how a guy may see her?but,if that long and yall are that deep with the convo,you may be correct more then you think,i,d check it out further,can you meet her or somthin?for lunch?or a date!too,she may feel scared!but there is a reason for her not wanting to show whom she is,myself i,d give an ultimatum kinda and see what happens,at least you will know she,s not the girl for you,wish you luck.
2006-09-06 18:56:20 · answer #5 · answered by sheena s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she feels insecure about her looks. but if u have been talking 4 8 months.. and if she wants to have sex and get serious, she will eventually have to show u how she looks doesn't sound normal 2 me.
2006-09-06 19:28:13 · answer #6 · answered by boyz_lurve_mwa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its normal if she has been lying to you. which sounds like what is happening. How can she expect to get serious if she won't let you see her? This internet is a great place to hide. You can be anyone you want to be. And its very sad that a lot of people take advantage of that. Its sad that they need to.
2006-09-06 19:02:36 · answer #7 · answered by Kismitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No thats not normal at all. If you have been talking to her for 8 months then you two know each other pretty good by now. She might be afraid she would disapoint you or something
2006-09-06 18:48:53 · answer #8 · answered by whitewolf1367 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was going to say that alot of people don't share pics over the net but if she wants to have sex with you I think that it's not out of the question to want to see a pic. She's preoalby lying to you about something.
2006-09-06 18:48:33 · answer #9 · answered by Holly B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not even one? Granted some people don't have pictures online but 8 months without seeing one or any progress on one. Fear the worst man, fear the worst.
2006-09-06 18:49:16 · answer #10 · answered by Milo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She must not think she is cute enough or good enough. She might not be who she says she is or even may be a guy. Don't worry about it. Just be friends. Sometimes that's more important than finding out the truth, unless things turn ugly.
2006-09-06 18:55:53 · answer #11 · answered by Marti 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋