and when, your spouse is in denial of his condition and you cannot do anything about it and just waited for the days for him/her to go...and you feel helpless when the patient himself/herself refuse treatment! I am under alot of stress... please advise should I force treatment on him cos he absconded from hospital before..
Alot of advise had been given but still he refuse to budge! I don know wat to think anymore...
2006-09-06 18:42:52 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I understand your situation to an extent. And my answer for you is no you shouldn't force anything on to him, just love him with all you have now. Because if you don't and when he does die you will regret not doing so. You literally need to spend each day with him as his last. Try to make it happy for him and realize that even though you're going through all the stress he's the one with the problem, and as much as you'd like to talk with him about his condition, he more than likely would like to talk about anything other than his condition, because deep down he probably knows he has it he just doesn't need people to remind him about it every time he talks to someone. Good Luck and Keep you head up it will be ok. God Bless
2006-09-06 18:48:40 · answer #1 · answered by Willing and forgiving 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say you should trick him. Get a good list of his symptoms and take them to the doctor who you will take him to.
Then plan something, a surprise party, a date or something but make sure that it wont happend enless he goes to the surprise first.
Have the doctor tell him how much you love him and care for him and let him know that you will stand beside him.
If that doesnt work, he(or she) doesnt care enough about their own life so you must render yourself helpless.
we cant change people only accept them.
2006-09-07 01:57:17 · answer #2 · answered by whatwouldyodado2006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Woah. I don't feel equipped to answer. Although I have had some friends go through things like this lately ... not the same circumstances. I know that the Hospice organization was extremely helpful to my friend and she would not have made it through her husband's illness and death if they had not been there for her. You could contact Hospice for some guidance.
2006-09-07 01:46:27 · answer #3 · answered by Rvn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to respect your spouses wishes....Maybe he is not in denial and it tired of the treatment the pain and only wishes for peace.
2006-09-07 02:01:53 · answer #4 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is quite sad to heard such thing happened to you. But you can't force someone to do anything against their wishes. What you need to do is to saty by his side and respect his decision and do fulfill the wishes that he haven't fulfill yet. I know it is painful for you to bear with such agony coz you are watching your love one's health deterioriating everyday and waiting for him to leave his agony. But I think it is more appropriate to respect his decision before he leave this world
2006-09-07 07:11:03 · answer #5 · answered by Clown & Joker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i really do not know how to console you.. i have loads of advice to give but all these seem furtile. i just want you to know that your spouse loves you loads..s/he really dun want you to worry and i believe that s/he just want to spend her remaining time by your side making you happy.. gee.. i'm so sorry.. i know that there's a heaven and a God who cares and understand.. it's true.. believe it and you'll have the grace and strenght to go through all these..
2006-09-07 10:39:19 · answer #6 · answered by Samantha T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to remember its his life not yours , even though you are and will be affected by it . my son is dying of brainstem cancer and he refused any futher treatments ,he said he just wants to die in peace , even though its breaking my heart , i have to respect his wishes...............
2006-09-07 01:53:07 · answer #7 · answered by sindi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep faith in Almighty
2006-09-07 02:31:10 · answer #8 · answered by Rishi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋