2006-09-06 18:08:45 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, you are in the 'infatuation stage' of the relationship. All those feelings are brain chemicals and hormones and have nothing to do with whether or not the relationship could or even should last long term.
Consider marriage when you have been together long enough to be out of the infatuation stage. When you have discussed ALL the issues involved in life after the wedding like finances, division of household labor, children, in laws, where to live, jobs, time away with friends, sex (how much and how often) and a million other things you haven't thought of. After all of that you consider each part of the vows, and what you consider is the difficult side of them, anybody can be happy when things are going well so,
richer or poorer....still want to be with them in a shack with crackers ala peanut butter for dinner...for the fourth night in a row?
sickness and health...they develop a chronic physical or mental illness and can't get around and can't work, still want to be there?
better or worse...they are in a car accident and you have to spend the rest of your life feeding them and changing their diapers, still want to be married?
keep yourself only to him or her, can you REALLY only have sex with only that person until you die?
THIS is what marriage is, not a fairy tale where everything goes well everyday, the one guarantee you have is that things WILL go wrong. Remember, you answer all these questions after you have passed infatuation, after you know what their bad points are (yes they have some and so do you) and still consider it anyway.
If you think you are up for all of this then maybe you should think about it. Don't forget to consider whether they would stick by you if it was you in any or all of the above scenarios. Check out the question posted here by married people and keep in mind that all of them thought this was the thing to do and the ONE for them when they got married too! There is a book called Lies At The Altar by Dr. Robin Smith, it helps you answer all this and go in to a marriage with your eyes wide open, if you aren't willing to consider all that then what you really want is a pretty ring and a nice party and lots of attention, have them but don't make that a basis for a LIFE. You don't know enough about each other yet to answer any of these questions...wait, if it is a relationship that will last it will, if it isn't you'll save yourself a lot of money, heartache and hassle by finding that out before having a wedding. Good luck!
2006-09-06 18:25:34 · answer #1 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ask that question, he will think that you are crazy let him make the first move believe me I'm talking from experience I've always said that I wanted to live with a guy before I get married well I've changed my mind about that unless I'm engaged then yes I will live with one then get married as I see things going the way I want them to go, but yet you never get to know someone that well there's always that side of them that's hidden somewhere, remember don't ask, let him do the moves cause later on you'll regret asking and he'll repeat it to you over and over again... Good luck
2006-09-06 18:27:34 · answer #2 · answered by chica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look... you can know a person for two years, twenty years or whatever... and you never really know a person. If you feel like you have this secure, safe and loving feeling, that this is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with... then it's ok to ask that person to marry you. BUT!!!! Be sure that you both are on the same wave length... or else you might scare them off.
2006-09-06 18:12:06 · answer #3 · answered by Sanne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After a month you should experience like he's the single and technically he ought to have been yet you certainly stopped the relationship chilly by featuring marriage so quickly. If somebody is that great and its going to correctly whats the harm im waiting? you will possibly nonetheless have been with that guy or woman and rather gotten to comprehend one yet another no longer purely be infatuated.
2016-09-30 10:22:17 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can ask him after 1 day if you want to but I can gaurantee you that it is not going to work. Be realistic. How well can you get to know each other in 2 months. You want to make a lifetime commitment and that after knowing each other for two months. No ways
2006-09-06 18:15:51 · answer #5 · answered by robsnor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its ok...many do it but why in such a hurry...slow down, get to know each other for awhile, wait at least 6 months and if you two still want to then get engaged, wait another 6 months before marrying...if you feel you can't wait then thats a big red flag and means neither of you are ready. if you are destined to be together 6 months to a year isn't too long.
2006-09-06 18:12:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no why will you want to marry someone after 2 months
2006-09-06 18:10:59 · answer #7 · answered by kandy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
personally I'd say after TWO MONTHS? ... OMG don't do it... U really don't get to KNOW someone till you are living together ... But then again i've read that if you really want them to be ur TRUE one and ONLY ... ask ... get engaged... and then wait and sit on the thought for a good six months before you get married... so that EVERYTHING comes out... all the skeletons... good luck.
2006-09-06 18:11:39 · answer #8 · answered by sweetsuezq4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife and I started going out on the 1st of June and got married on the 16th of August. We now have been married for 32 years.
So I would say that it is alright.
2006-09-06 18:11:24 · answer #9 · answered by fatboysdaddy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if you want him to run away as fast as he can! lol
Seriously, why would you want to marry someone you've only known for two months. Wait at least a year.
2006-09-06 18:38:29 · answer #10 · answered by avll 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋