If my husband and I said we wanted a three-some, how would you respond?

Question

Just curious!

Answer 1

At least you have the nerve to ask when so many are afraid to.
I did it once and it was ok, because it was me and a friend and an ex-hooker. But it can change the dynamic of your marriage if you invite a man in who is a better lover. But if you're talking another lady, that could be bad for you if he likes her better. Tread lightly, luv. It takes a rare breed not to get affected by it if it continues on a regular basis.

Answer 2

I personally would be shocked-and I think it is natural for most to express that, even if we really aren't but rather for perceived social behavior-but I would hope you two would give me time to contemplate it, not write it off just yet. I might need 10minutes alone in the bathroom to think it over or a whole night or weekend due to the shocking nature of such a question. But after awhile it would sink in and I would feel more comfortable and also would feel like a grasp more of a control over the notion. I think this approach would get the results you want! Good Luck!

Answer 3

I can see how it might interest you but I think it's fraught with all sorts of other issues. I think just fantasying about it but actually bringing someone else in is a whole new ballgame.
Marriage vows are important to me and I think having sex with another person besides your spouse is wrong..even if your spouse is "sharing" the other person with you.
I'd worry about sexual diseases.
Is your marriage strong enough to withstand maybe one or the other of you getting jealous of the 3rd person?
Possibility that your spouse might like the 3rd person more...and next thing you know.. you're single and they're married.

So I guess I go back to the committment element... and if you've discussed all these things ---- and both of your viewpoints.... and still feel the need to explore this...then it's your choice and decision.

Answer 4

We would have to set some guidelines for before, after and during. Make sure everyones on the same page before proceeding, this keeps out the misunderstandings. For ex is this a one time thing? Is their places that should not be touched etc. ?

Answer 5

I think that you are asking for trouble if you bring a third person into your relationship. Think about it, what if he decides he likes this other person more and decides to have sex behind your back? Or maybe he decides that "hmmm, there really is much more to other women than my wife, I think I'll go find other women to sleep with." Curiosity killed the cat and you will be crazy if you go along with this three-some.

Answer 6

You could give it a try. It may cause things to not be the same after that though. The dynamics of the relationship might change. But what do I know.

Answer 7

Well, if you were approaching me with that offer, you would be rejected. But hey, there are those Swingers Clubs now. So we all know there are people out there willing to go for it. And if your asking if other people would look down on you for it, hey, it is your life and relationship. Make your selves happy.

Answer 8

First I will let it be me and my husband and I would get so sexy and give him a nice smootie drink and put on some soft music. Now to get down to the threesome - honey get you a bat and I'll let you finish the rest of the sentence.

Answer 9

Find a swingers club. There are tons of people doing it already. Are you looking for a type in particular??

Answer 10

I'd like to think that you are in the wrong forum.
Subscribe to cable and view the porn stations and answer your own question. They advertise all the 900 numbers.