2006-09-06 18:06:31 · 23 answers · asked by dan r 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would strongly urge you to go seek counseling for yourself before you make a drastic change in your life.
Hope things get better
Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brilliant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel
2006-09-06 18:09:43 · answer #1 · answered by jaredsmommy2004 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you just need to have a sit down with your wife... and talk to her about everything that's bothering you, after all she is supposed to be your very best friend in the world. Just explain to her the way you feel and tell her you need her to help you get through these feelings and her support, ask her for her advice and tell her the reason your wanting a divorce... maybe she can fix it! I know this because I just had the same problem with my husband and he is the type of guy that does not like to talk about his problems or the problems that we as a married couple are having ..... but we did it. We finally talked about everything, cause it was either talk about it and try to fix the problem together, or us separate and be done with it! But we are all fine now and everything is good and we are back happy with each other again! You both just need to be honest with each other and tell each other whats bothering you both! Maybe ask your boss for a raise, I bet your very stressed about work and your family life and its making you feel depressed! First try to fix things with your wife, and then work on your job... talk to your boss, then I bet you will feel much more relieved! That's just my honest advice! Cause I swear I was just in your same position.... And we are now fine!
Good luck , and everything will work out!
When every door shuts... a new door opens!
2006-09-06 18:41:54 · answer #2 · answered by Becca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are feeling very depressed, now is not the time to make major changes such as a divorce or a career change. You need to seek professional help for your depression and work on these issues with a therapist and/or a psychiatrist. Believe me, I know from experience, depression skews your view on everything and does not allow you to make good decisions. Wait till your head is feeling a little more clear.
2006-09-06 18:09:07 · answer #3 · answered by Lucrecia2001 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
seek professional help...really...its odd that you want to get rid of everything known to you and change it all and you don't even know why. as for the depression...you probably got your answer right there...but as for WHY you're depressed again a professional will help you figure that out and once you do that you can deal with it. if you divorce, change your job, etc. it won't make you happy...it will only make things worse and make you much more depressed...confront whatever is making you feel down and deal with it first before making any big decisions.
2006-09-06 18:10:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a divorce and change your job. You CAN do whatever you decide to do..its just the getting started that is the hard part. You already know what you want now make a plan and get it done! Good luck!
2006-09-06 18:32:28 · answer #5 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might be depressed and you can get help for that. Managing your feelings of depression can help you make the best decision regarding your job, spouse, etc. Get some space from your wife, take a couple weeks off from work if you need to, but don't make life altering experiences if you are feeling depressed.
One things you can't do is "snap out of it", these remarks are shaming and don't address the seriousness of the decisions you are making. Talk to someone about your feelings.
2006-09-06 18:20:07 · answer #6 · answered by AZLUV 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you are that unhappy then go for the divorce it is the best hing for you both she will only suffer in the end if you dont want to be with her anymore and stay with her . Get the divorce , go get applications for a new job , possibly move . Change your surroundings . YOu could go to school for a new job if you wanted there are so many possibilities
2006-09-06 18:11:24 · answer #7 · answered by brandi.smiles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go back in your mind, and remember the time when you felt comfortable with your life. Remember what made you fall in love with your Misses, and how proud you were of your work. Think about those things and go face your wife and your job in reality.
Your wife obviously still loves you or she would have divorced you long ago. Go and love her back. Be greatful you have a wife that has stayed with you and, know how fortunate you are to have a job ... some people are not so lucky.
2006-09-06 18:13:36 · answer #8 · answered by pickle head 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok... go talk to a psycologist... go to therapy.
Don't get me wrong.. I don't think you are crazy... but maybe talking to an objective stranger will help you sort things out. Since they are professionals also... they might detect any sign of depression. Before you go and change your world upside down... take a breath. If you are depressive... remember, it's a sickness of the brain that can be treated. It doesn't last forever and with the correct medication... it really helps (you hear that Tom Cruise!). Go see someone and talk.... they might make you realize a few things about yourself you couldn't see by yourself!
2006-09-06 18:11:02 · answer #9 · answered by Socrate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this a mid-life crisis? Sounds like you just want to be someone else for while. That is understandable as we all feel that way sometimes. I see that you have not posted any particular problem, just generalities. How about posting again, but with some focus on the problem at hand, not just complaining for sympathy. You will get more helpful advice that way.
2006-09-06 18:11:06 · answer #10 · answered by burpolicious 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋