2006-09-06 18:02:54 · 11 answers · asked by dan r 1 in Health ➔ Men's Health
If you are truly depressed, address that before you decide whether or not to get a divorce and change jobs. Those feelings could be symptoms of the depression rather than causes for it. It's hard to tell. See a doctor and talk about the depression. When it is under control you'll have a clearer view of what you need to do to make your life better.
2006-09-06 18:06:20 · answer #1 · answered by Rvn 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The logical and more positive / pratical step here would be to seek therepetucal counseling or psychiatraic treatment options to relieve your depression. Once that's successfully accomplished, you very well may see a better, more clear and happier picture of your personal life that does not call for a divorce or career change.
However, if once clear of the depression and you really feel a career change is in order, I'd make that #2 on my list. Find a career / job that pays the bills AND makes you happy working in that profession. Bonus points go to you if the new job pays double compared to the old job.
So.....if you are clear of the depression and are happy; even estatic with the new and better paying career...but still feel divorce is necessary......I'd really weigh carefully this #3 option.
First, be fair to yourself and spouse. Give maritial counseling a earnest try, see if you and your spouse can really work things out for the better. And it helps in your favor seeking this on the record in divorce court (should matters still take you there).
Also give careful clear insight on what to expect once a divorce is final: how bad is giving up HALF, will she go for your retirement...and how financially affected will you be paying child support. I have a hunch the marriage counseling fast becomes a very good idea.
But scary as impending divorce is, it sometimes isn't such a bad idea: and may lead you on to an even happier life.
My best wishes to you....hope my advice helps.
2006-09-07 01:13:01 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. Wizard 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well Well Now, calm down. You must be feeling pretty down to have so much wrong in your life. Depression is much more than just a slang word to through around.
The way you are feeling about everything in your life could be because you are depressed. But if you could change it all, how would you have it? And if you did have it all the way you want it, would you be as happy as a bee making honey?
Maybe your life choices brought you to your depression and you are unsatisfied with the bed you have made. That's not uncommon. You're certainly not doomed. You can change things around. It can't happen magically though. And you certainly can't wish it all away. It's going to take some planning on your part but you first have to start by dealing with your depression. Once you have been treated and you become in control of your emotions then you can plan your map to happiness.
That's what life is really all about you know? Choices! Until you can get to that doctor appointment, start praying for the Lord to come into your life. That'll help in all aspects of your life. I promise!
I don't know your age but one of these sites will help you:
http://www.helpmyteen.com/index.html?helpoe=depression
or
http://www.nimh.nih.gov/healthinformation/depressionmenu.cfm
2006-09-07 01:19:25 · answer #3 · answered by Shawnie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you want a divorce, then your spouse probably isn't happy with the marriage either. i would suggest marriage counseling first. a job is a job. my only suggestion for that is to make sure you have a new job before you quit your old one, especially if you have children to support. but there's lots of jobs and i'm sure you can find another one that you like better. as for depression. the counseling might help that too, and if needed they can prescribe you anti-depressants. they are very common now. a lot of people take them and find them helpful for their mood. it's not a taboo or anything. and if the counseling just doesn't work, just get the divorce. good luck!
2006-09-07 01:10:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you want the divorce and job change because you are depressed or is the depression causing you to feel you need these changes? I would do neither until you have your depression checked by a professional.
2006-09-07 01:07:13 · answer #5 · answered by goldielocks123 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take a break from all of these things which are bothering you for min. 10 day.. Go to some peacefull place alone. Read some motivational books and you can consult some psycaterist too.
Come back from there and do what you want with full force as you can do every thing you want it can be distructive or constructive. But please do constructive things which will benefit you on a long run.
All the best.
2006-09-07 02:01:54 · answer #6 · answered by heart_intelligence 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go the root of the problems. solve one at a time.. Is it your marriage or career that affecting you..We are human not computer, cant reset or restart.. We have responsibilities.
Consult doctor on yr depression, have a good rest, talk to a fren, u may feel better.. Life is full of ups and downs.. u are not alone..
2006-09-07 01:17:52 · answer #7 · answered by myshop258 l 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
thats verry sad that you want a devorce chage jobs first and rethink the devorce remember when you took your vows and it was for better or worse the job may be the wrong job for you if your not happy there then it is time to go and bet youll feel better at home to i hope things work out devorce is so sad
2006-09-07 01:07:00 · answer #8 · answered by polkahaunis 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
take it easy...one step at a time. Sort out ur thoughts and action plan on paper...get some support and follow thru with ur plans. All the best...remember...life is a journey...ride with it
2006-09-07 01:07:13 · answer #9 · answered by newfangled_04 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get a divorce, change your job.. thats a start.. oh and get some meds
2006-09-07 01:04:20 · answer #10 · answered by awesome_eo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋