I am worried for my mom. She will be devastated. Know of any books that are actually any good? I hate seeing my mom upset, and I would like to say comforting words to her but I'm not good at that stuff. I'm really worried about my mom. I am sad for my grandmother too, but I think my role here will be to comfort my mother.
2006-09-06 17:46:38 · 11 answers · asked by MrMonkIsMyIdol 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
No words will comfort her. This is going to hurt. Simple as that. The best thing you can do is offer your shoulder for her to cry on and 'be there' for her in any way you can.
2006-09-06 17:49:30 · answer #1 · answered by Olivia B 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that a book or quote are right in a time like this. Although it troubles you to see your mom in pain, she needs you more than anything. Buying a book will seem like the easy way out, when what she really needs is someone to lean on or cry to. It will be hard, no one ever said losing a loved one was easy. Despite the hard situation, you need to be there for your mother. I can't tell you what to say. In this time, things that come from your heart will be the best for her. If I am right in assuming that this lady is your grandmother, the you may be grieving too. As macabre as it is, shared angst over a death can be a strong, healing bond between two people. If your mom wants a book or quote, let her find them on her own. At this time, your mom needs you, no more and no less. I'll pray for emotional healing for the both of you. God bless.
2006-09-06 18:06:52 · answer #2 · answered by wood_elf_86 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Books and quotes are good ideas but not as comforting as the love from the heart. You are better than you think you are or can be. Good children will rise to the occasion when they need to and the fact that you worry about your mom speaks volume for what a nice kid you are.
Try just being there for your mom. A little back and shoulder massage when she least expects it. A nice soothing cup of tea. Find funny stories in the newspapers and read them to her. Leave her cute little notes (a simple 'I Love You, Mom) on her pillow and pick up a simple flower now and then. Offer to sit with grandma for her once in a while. Offer to do as much of the housework that you can handle but don't let it interfere with your homework if you in school. If you are older and work, find the time to call her at least twice a day. Do not be over cheerful, it will come off phoney but do not be morose either.
Simply put, just be there for your mom. She will notice and be glad that she can count on you.
I'll say a prayer for you, your mom and grandmother.
Good Luck.
2006-09-06 18:02:23 · answer #3 · answered by Notorious 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
: ( So sorry which you lost your mom so youthful. Hun, that's purely been a twelve months (and besides the indisputable fact that many months), that's going to take a jointly as. some human beings act as though interior some months a guy or woman is meant to be "over it," yet it incredibly is ridiculous. do no longer pay attention to them. that's going to in all probability in no way experience wonderful, besides the indisputable fact that that's going to ease up by the years. whether it does not look like it now. while you're no longer already, you should evaluate turning out to be a member of a team for toddlers handling a loss. you are able to definitely discover others there that definitely comprehend, whether no person at abode looks to. Do you do lots in tribute on your mom? specifically cases even merely doing little issues to honor them facilitates some. fantastically if that's something you do each year. as an occasion I consistently deliver a donation to a company in a Christmas card each and every twelve months in reminiscence of somebody. that's my way of protecting him on my present checklist. I additionally donate (by information superhighway) to a distinctive for his birthday. And a rose bush planted for him, and his call on a memorial wall someplace... You get the assumption.
2016-09-30 10:21:46 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Chicken Soup for the Soul books are good. I'm sure there is one that will help. The main thing here is that you cannot really help your mom except to be her strength and comfort. There is nothing you can do to take the pain away or make it less. Just be there for her. She has to go through this and will appreciate your strength and compassion.
2006-09-06 17:49:49 · answer #5 · answered by Chloe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a really hard believe me i know. My dad died year ago, he had a cancer. He didnt passed away quickly so i had to be there for everyone. i felt all the time that im not allowed to feel sad, i have to help my mom and my younger sisters. Everyone tryed to help me, but the best advice is that speak straight from your heart. Any books arent good enough to help her. I tryed that too, but it wasnt no good. The most awfulest thing was when everybody sayed to me that you will feel better after a time...let the time take the pain away. Good advice from me to you is that you will listen to her, comfort her be there when she needs you. And remember to tell your mom that you love her very much...love is the best medicine for grief. Hopefully that helped a littlebit. Hang in there...ok?
2006-09-06 17:57:02 · answer #6 · answered by serina 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am so sorry for you at this time, but this is one part of life that we will all have to deal with in out own way, yeh, there are books available for grief counciling and these may help you understand the processes that will take place, but ultimately we all deal with grief differently.
the best thing you can do for all your family is to love them!, tell them that you love them and be there for your mother, to know that your children love you is a great healer! and it will also help you grow, just remember that some time, hopefully far in the future, your children will be thinking the same thing, we are all born to die, i'm sorry to be so blunt but its the time inbetween and the life we live live thats important, you sound like you are a caring person, and so it will hurt, but thats what happens when someone you love passes away, think of your mother and you will get through this,we all do somehow.
i know you will! all the best to you and your family.
2006-09-06 18:17:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself, Give her a hug, like olivia says no words ll be of comfort. I remember my mom's sister died of cancer and I m not good at consoling people too, I just hugged her and let her cry.
2006-09-06 17:54:04 · answer #8 · answered by devilish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know one i really love from a book i read - it helped me w/ my dad's death.... "to the well organized mind death is but the next great adventure..."
try googleing some quotes too u might be able to find some on there too :)
i wish you the best
2006-09-06 17:50:49 · answer #9 · answered by xSublimeSorrowx 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just reminde her how much you love her,hug her and she will feel much better
2006-09-06 20:48:24 · answer #10 · answered by maya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋