Ok...here's the deal. My little sister has been with this guys for a year. He preposed to her and gave her a $3000 engagement ring. Out of NO WHERE he decided that his 'feelings' had changed. Now mind you, they WEREN'T even having problems and he just SPRUNG this on her. She is shocked and heartbroken. Well, to top it all off, HE ASKED FOR THE RING BACK!!! Should she give it to him??????
2006-09-06 17:40:50 · 52 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
NO!!!!!
Your sister must be devastated for the loss of his love, why should she have to suffer materially as well? Why does he have to lose nothing? Let the ring be the price he has to pay for causing her the pain.
2006-09-06 23:55:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the State you live in. The ring was given as a promise of marriage and usually no matter who breaks off the engagement, the ring is given back. However, she should check with your local Civil Court as he may sue her. In that case, she will be prepared to deal with the situation.
She may not think so now but she is lucky that he showed his true colors before the wedding/marriage. The deeper in the relationship, the deeper the pain and yes the draining of the pocketbook. So GOOD RIDDANCE TO THE BUM!
2006-09-06 17:47:57 · answer #2 · answered by Notorious 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whatever her feelings for the guy, yes, she should give it back. An engagement ring is not like other gifts. An engagement ring is exchanged for a promise to marry. So, if the marriage is off, she should return it to him, even if he's the one who called it off. Now, if he's a true gentleman or a really great guy, he might let her keep it anyway. But he's not required to.
2006-09-06 17:46:40 · answer #3 · answered by mecurious 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, honestly it's a $3000 ring, but at most you'll be able to sell or hock it for maybe a third of that at most? Why torture herself about it. Since the whole thing is over, it's best to return and be over with, avoids fights. In the end why keep something with bad memories, put it on the guy. He'll be stuck with a $3000 ring that he can't do much with.
2006-09-06 17:44:27 · answer #4 · answered by playswithstuff 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
technically the ring is a token of a promise of marriage, that promise is no longer active so the ring should go back to the giver, but under standard conventions of relationships if the man breaks off the engagement without citing fault in the woman or laying blame on her then he has no right to ask for the ring back
2006-09-06 17:53:24 · answer #5 · answered by zether 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In ettiquite, if the woman calls off the engagement she should give back the ring. If the man calls of the engagement - she is not required to give back the ring.
however, if he is posing a physical threat to her - I would just give up the ring and get him out of my life. But if he's just a jerk . Keep the ring - sell it to a pawn shop and buy yourself something pretty!
2006-09-06 17:44:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is going to sound cold of me, but I say yes. I may even be a minority saying this, but I think that it's his ring to have back should he want it. I'm not trying to suggest that your sister did anything, but just because she's saying he 'all of a sudden changed his mind' doesn't mean that is what happend. There could be more to it. Way more to it. Ontop of that an engagement ring isn't so much a present, but a proposal.. If it's not gonna happen, then it's his to have back.
2006-09-06 17:44:36 · answer #7 · answered by Olivia B 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It is customary for an engaged couple, that if they brake up, the female does give the ring back. It is completely up to her if she wants to though. If she wants to keep it he cant do anything about it because he gave it to her. But I think it is the right thing to do. After all, why keep it if the relationship is off?
2006-09-06 17:44:55 · answer #8 · answered by Jess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, an engagement ring is considered a contract for marriage. He broke the contract, he lost his deposit. If she broke it off, then I'd say give it back. Oh, and if the ring was given to her on a holiday, it would also be considered a gift, and you do not have to give back a gift.
2006-09-06 17:44:15 · answer #9 · answered by cowgirl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If the ring was given as a gift (birthday, Christmas, Valentine's Day, etc.) she may, if she wants to, keep the ring. If the ring was bought only for the purpose of the engagement, she should return it. Why would she want to keep the ring after he did such a horrible thing?
2006-09-06 17:44:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋