I was molested by my tennis instructor at the age of 11. I am now 31 and guess who my instructor is? Yes, he chose teaching over tennis. I never told anyone out of fear and now I have to see him every week. If he remembers me he is good at hiding it, but that was 20 yrs. ago. He may not recognize me now.
2006-09-06 17:22:24 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Be careful.... and change classes quietly....
Confronting him or accusing him 20 years later is not in your favor...., and that could lead to many other problems for you...
There is no point in suffering any more than you have already...
At 31... change classes...let go....
2006-09-06 17:35:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you call molested? Is it what your boyfriend does today?
I'm serious!
Did he beat you. What did he do.
Sure it's not cool, but when push comes to shove do you let your boyfriend do the same things.
No matter what, confront him. Make him squirm. He may be smug, but you can get to him, if that's what you really want to do.
Then you're as bad as him
Then you are taking advantage.
Then you are molesting.
If it makes you feel good, do it.
What exactly did he do.
Did he "do you"
Did he "fooly" with you
Did he kiss your neck.
Did he fondle your top side.
DId he physcially hurt you.
Did he do what you let your boyfriend/girl friend do.
What did you do to stop it.
How far did it go.
Did he stick it inside you.
Did he pull your clothes off.
How far.
He's a man you're a girl.
The big question is how did her harm you. For real or what.
Did he rape you. Did he pull your stuff off, shove you on a bed and take you by force.
I've never understood the difference between an "indoctrination" into sex and having sex with a guy who DUMPS you.
Ever been DUMPED after talking everything off and letting him do everything and you doing everhting to him.
Ever been DUMPED and replaced by someone else.
What is the difference.
What is the difference between a 20 year old guy folding you and a 12 year old boy fondling you.
A finger is a finger
A tounge is a tounge.
Abotu taken advantage of
You let a guy your age do everything and next week he's with someone else not you, so who got taken advatange of!
Confront him
Tell him the truth
YOu seem to hurt
Tell him how he hurt you
Maybe it will make you feel better
I don't know
A guy comes on to you
YOu make him wait
Then you let him have a little
then you let him have everything
What is the difference!
Now if this guy held a knife to your neck and forced you, that's different.
What is the TRUE problem here
Did this guy NOT stay and NOT love you
Is that the problem
He got into your pants or blouse and HE LEFT YOU so you are angry.
This is what you need to address
With HIM not me!
I'm just trying to make you understand your own pain.
Where does it come from!
What is the difference between HIS finger and a finger from a girl or guy you want today.
If you didn't want it then, did you say so!
If you were afaid then it's not your fault.
If you told him DON'T OR I'LL TELL MY PARENENTs would he have stopped.
Do you stil hate him for leaving you
FOr not staying
FOr having you and then deserting you
What is this about!
YOu have to decide it, realistically.
Do you bear a grudge.
What, you get him into your pants and he left.
Most guys do that. That's common.
Husbands do that. That's common. Ask the average girl.
Why do you hurt.
TELL HIM!
Not me.
Don't you dare write me
TELL HIM!
Guys are all about getting you out of your clothes and getting themselves into you!
Every girl here KNOWS that is true!
That's all guys are about. Getting thier rocks off!
2006-09-06 18:02:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would confront the man; you might feel better doing this with some of your family members.
He may still be preying on other girls or children. Might you consult an attorney or some one in a rape crisis centre?
Switch classes. This is nothing to grin and bear. If you don't enjoy the class, you won't learn as well.
2006-09-06 17:27:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you march into the office and let admissions know that they have a child molester instructing.
I must say, if I were you, I would have beaten the ever lovin' stuff out of him with my racquet the moment I realized who he was. Why are you so doscile about this? The man is a child molester and he violated you. Report the scum!
2006-09-06 17:31:30 · answer #4 · answered by MadforMAC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely switch classes! I hope you are able to do something to get him for that. If the statute of limitations has expired on you I'm sure he had other victims. If only you could find them you might have a chance at seeing him in an orange jumpsuit...
2006-09-06 17:27:28 · answer #5 · answered by Reject187 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, if you want to scare the crap out of him, just remind him what happened twenty years ago, and act like your pissed, and I bet you that you'll be getting all A's in class from now on. no but seriously now, I wouldn't say anything about it because you don't know what he would be liable to do once he knew that you recognized him, so I think if the class is important to you, just don't say anything and just stick with it until its over, or if its realy bothering you that much then change classes.
2006-09-06 17:29:41 · answer #6 · answered by v k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Switching classes may help you to overcome the problem, and why dwell on it if it makes you feel uncomfortable,as long as there is another teacher teaching the same course.
2006-09-06 17:28:32 · answer #7 · answered by stonehenge16333 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may not feel able to,but I would think this is a perfect opportunity to confront him.I would approach him privately at first,then if he blew me off I would not hesitate to bring it up in front of the class. Make the bastard sweat for what he did to you!
2006-09-06 17:26:38 · answer #8 · answered by barbara 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh get out of there and tell some one about it. People like that should not roam free.
2006-09-06 17:29:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now is your chance to get back at him..
I know it is intimidating but you need to strike back..
Who can help you ?
Husband ? Parents ? Friends ? Lawyer ? Rape Counselor ?
2006-09-06 17:27:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋