is a lond distance relationship the best for ppl?

Question

my boyfriend lives in texas and i live in new mexico but were having a lil bit of problems and well i need advice HELP >!!!!!!!!!!!
i wanna meet him sooooooooooooooooo much and he SAYS he does want to meet me but he acts like a total DICK at timesbut other times it feels soo right that you know i just love him sooo much and i dont know what to do can any one help me on this i realy could use it right about now we have been datingfor about a year now and he says he wantsa to come down in dec on x mas so i really could use some help plzz
thank you

Answer 1

Long distance relationships are extremely difficult to maintain. I'm sorry, but you sound a little confused. How can you have been dating for about a year but he wants to meet you? If this is a computer relationship don't count on anything. Unfortunately, he may all ready be in a relationship, even married. You really don't know.

Answer 2

It works on some people. But deep understanding on eash other and patientness is important so that the relationship last.

Love is a lasting forever thing. So take your time. and no rush. Boys look at 2 things, prettiness and good personality. You know what pretty is. Good personality is the way u act and speak and how u behave yourself, also how u conduct yourself. They often look for good qualities. This is quite a tough area to improve. In other words, if they like u, means they really like u. If not, then, don't be sad and give up like others do, maybe there's still a chance u can improve. All the best to u.

Answer 3

Let me get this straight -- you say you've been dating for about a year, but you haven't met him? So I assume this is strictly an on-line relationship. He says he wants to come down at Christmas, and you love him so much -- what's the problem? Are you saying you hate being away from him since he's so far away? Well, that's one of the hazards of a long-distance relationship. No, I can't say it's the best, but it's better than none at all. The real problem with a long-distance love, is that you can't get together in person, and you can't date anyone else if you're committed to him, so that kind of puts a damper on your social life. But if you really love this guy, then you'll just have to be patient and put up with his being so far away. If it's true love, then it's worth waiting for, isn't it?

Answer 4

Long distance relationships are best when they start out as local ones and then one person has to move away.

The problem is that, without that daily contact, you fantasize away all of the crappy parts - if he's a jerk sometimes, that's your conscience telling you something - the love so much is just hormones.

Tell him you want to cool it for 6 months, go find people local and have fun, and see how you feel in 6 months - no contact from him - I think you'll find other fish in the pond.

Answer 5

HEY!! I live in Finland (now im at USA) and my fiancee lives in USA. We have long distance relationship. That has worked really well for us. We are getting married next january. Relationship lasts if you guys REALLY TRULY love eachothers. Something says for me that he doesnt care you as much as you care about him. He should be excited to meet you every time...and hes not. are you sure that is really what you want, if it is YOU can make it work. Good luck. We did it and im sure that you can do it too, if you try hard.

Answer 6

Long Distance realtionships are expensive and very taxing. If you guys can't afford to see each other maybe you should say your good byes for now until you can get closer. I am sure their are plenty of fish in the sea!!

Answer 7

Abstinence makes the heart grow fonder

Answer 8

take it from someone who has been there , talking on the phone or internet or chatting or snail mail is one thing after seeing each other in person is a whole other thing. be prepared.

Answer 9

Getting a little desperate, are we?