How does a 14 year old tell a 32 year old she thinks they are drinking too much?
I have this friend, that is WAY older, more like a mom to me. She has been drinking alot of alcohol lately. I dont want her to become and alcoholic. I tried writing her a letter, but she took it the wrong way... how could i tell her nicely?
2006-09-06 17:02:56 · 7 answers · asked by cluelessclumsyblonde 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
The problem with this situation is that if she's not drinking too much and you're wrong, she ofcourse will shrug off your concern and not pay much attention to it while if she is drinking too much, she won't take kindly to hearing she is and may not be in the state of mind to deal with the situation in a mature way. In a perfect world, whether she's drinking too much or not, she'd appreciate your concern and maturely respond to it in whatever way she felt was appropriate. The world, as I'm sure you know now (even at 14) is far from perfect, so no matter how good of intentions you have, this may not go over well. Sorry.
2006-09-06 17:06:34 · answer #1 · answered by Olivia B 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just tell whoever it is outright that you think they are drinking too much and it's making you uncomfortable.
The most that could happen is the person is gonna get testy on the issue. The best time to bring it up, would be before you see them start to drink, that way their mind is clearer and they *will* take it to heart even if they don't really seem to take your concern seriously.
Good Luck!
2006-09-06 17:22:05 · answer #2 · answered by tai_aka_tamariana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon, if she's eating way too lots, sounds like she's already hooked. definite, she's like a mom to you, yet you are able to desire to stay far off from her. If she took this one little letter the incorrect way, what is going to she do next? Hit you? I lived 2 a million/2 years thank you to long with an alcoholic, i became married with an toddler. i'm able to inform you from journey that the undertaking does not get greater appropriate, it gets worse. and in many cases some gets violent like my previous due husband did. stay away or she would be in a position to attempt and pull you down along with her, or worse...attempt to harm you in a drunken rage. specifically cases you merely could decrease back off a touch and enable the guy study on their very very own.
2016-09-30 10:20:18 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THERES NO WAY TO MAKE HER UNDERSTAND SHES GOING TO THINK SHES OLDER AND KNOWS BETTER WHEN SHE MOST PROBABLY DOSENT HAVE A CLUE.
COUSE SHE KNOWS SHE HAS A PROB SHES GONNA GET DEFENSIVE AND MAD AT U WHENEVER U BRING IT UP TO HER SADLY DONT WASTE UR TIME THE AGE GAP IS TOO GREAT SHE WONT LISTEN.
MAYBE GETTING ONE OF HER FRIENDS OF THE SAME AGE TO TRY AND TALK TO HER WOULD HELP.
UR SO YOUNG I NO U MAY CARE FOR THIS PERSON BUT DONT TAKE THERE PROBS ONTO YOUR SHOLDERS
U SHOULD BE OUT THERE HAVING FUN AND ENJOYING LIFE
2006-09-06 17:09:31 · answer #4 · answered by realchick 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this women sounds like she might be depressed and in need of some help it might be to big of a problem for you alone you could try to tell her your concerned about how she has been acting lately more likely she will be offensive about it
2006-09-06 17:10:23 · answer #5 · answered by Irene 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if shes drinking that much she probably wont listen to you or anyone else.when they start drinking that much its almost a lost cause to try and tell them anything.
2006-09-06 18:29:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just flat out tell her.
2006-09-06 17:07:09 · answer #7 · answered by lildevilgurl152004 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋