My sister called at 3:15AM b/c my nephew (age 8) was crying from missing my mom (she lives with us).So the heck what! I got very upset b/c I can't think of anybody else she would have disrespected like that."Do you know what time it is",I said and continued to tell her off.She did apologize but asked me was our mother awake.OF COURSE I HUNG UP ON HER!The next day she called and asked me to extend her apologies to my husband (who agreed that it was disrespectful)I told her I would and I did. Later on she called back,got my husband on the phone and apologized.Damn!Shouldn't she have left it alone?Here's the thing-He got on the phone and all he said was,"huh,oh yeah,oh that's ok, don't worry about it" I felt like I was just standing out in left field all by myself. As if he was saying,"don't worry,she's mad but I'm not" I got so mad! In return,I got her back on the phone and asked her why she had to call back. He starts yelling while she's on the phone and I hit him in the face with phone
2006-09-06 17:02:21 · 10 answers · asked by Just me 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ohhh. Ouch. That was a surprise ending.
I was going to say I think it was a diplomatic thing for your husband to do to just say "don't worry about it." This is why. She's your sibling. You know how you can get mad at your sibling and hate them one day and love them the next, but if anyone else gets into a scrap with your sibling, all of a sudden you are mad at that person and defend your sibling? Well, if your husband acted mad at her, one day, perhaps soon, that would come back to create a problem because you will get over it, and she'll get over it with you, and then he's kind of stuck hanging out there having acted crappy with her ... and doesn't get the same "free pass" forgiveness that a sibling does. But then, I figured I also should say, your sister needed to just let it drop and not keep calling back on it. And, furthermore, I guess he shouldn't have said, "she's mad but I'm not" because that was taking it a bit too far. But why oh why did you have to go and crack him upside the head with the phone? That's just not cool. You can't take this to a physical level and get abusive and expect to get any support from anyone rational who was not all caught up in the heat of the fight. So, here it stands. If I could wave a magic wand and make everyone behave as they should right now, your hubby needs to apologize to you for not doing a better job keeping out of it when he knew you were furious; your sister needs to apologize to you for calling so late about something so stupid and for really digging hard to involve your hubby, and most of all you need to apologize to your hubby for getting physically violent and make a promise to him that you will never again let anything escalate to that point, because it's just plain wrong. Yes, marriage is a partnership, and no, you don't beat on your partner. I hope by the time you read this that everyone has already made up somehow.
2006-09-06 17:22:47 · answer #1 · answered by Rvn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well 1....she shouldn't have gotten him in the whole mess....2. you shouldn't hit him. 3.If it cause much stress, maybe your mother could move in with your sister. And 4.Marriage is a partnership....but that dosent mean standing on your side even if you are wrong. Thats one problem my parents had, But they soon realized that its alot easier to talk about their problems with people face to face and not start a big argument.
2006-09-07 00:09:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
So you think in marriage your husband doesn't get to have an opinion - understand that he wasn't woken up at 3:00 am, so he's just hearing the third party story from you, and what was he supposed to say "yup, I'm really po'ed that you woke my wife up?" And you hit him in the face and call that a partnership!
2006-09-07 00:05:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
this must be for real. if so i hope he wasnt hurt by the phone but enough is enough. put it to rest and think no more about it. marriage is a partnership and united front btw.
2006-09-07 00:55:27 · answer #4 · answered by Johnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so you hit your husband in the face with the phone because he decided to forgive your sister for something so trivial?
you sound like a nutbag
2006-09-07 00:13:29 · answer #5 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He was wrong for being diplomatic and you were correct for becoming a violent raging lunatic.
It that the answer you want to hear?
2006-09-07 00:07:46 · answer #6 · answered by Holden 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dang thats messed up! You should have just told her that if she didn't give it up and just leave it alone that you were gonna get pissed. Then you could have shut her up there and your husband wouldn't have gotten into trouble.
2006-09-07 00:09:14 · answer #7 · answered by dabster 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
thats husband abuse but your right he should have stood behind you and told her same thing
2006-09-07 00:06:27 · answer #8 · answered by liltexas36 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure glad you're not part of my family
2006-09-07 00:07:21 · answer #9 · answered by old man 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds like the whole family are f,,,,,d in the head
2006-09-07 00:05:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋