2006-09-06 16:57:58 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
an example is one time i was in a debate about abortion and i stated that i was antilife. all of a sudden i get people telling me to kill my self and other rude things! aft a few secounds one of the main people on the other side asked if i ment prochoice. i never herd that befor and asked what it was and agreed that thats what i ment. i said antilife because i figure that was the oppaset of prolife, not i know its not. but people did not need to attack me for not knowing the right word.
2006-09-06 17:03:13 · update #1
Maybe because we get into a defensive mode too soon. Or maybe you chose very wrong ways to say what you mean.
Okay! I see the point now. They didn't attack you for not knowing the word. They did it because they THOUGHT you knew the right words! And.. I think we all should think the same unless we are warned first. I mean... if I had been there, I would have thought you knew that kind of words. Why would I think otherwise?
If the problem is that, just... learn more. Be precise when talking. and defend your arguments.
(I am assuming you are a native speaker, of course.)
2006-09-06 16:59:56 · answer #1 · answered by kamelåså 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends how you say something. I'm a really simple person, and I say stupid things at times, when I don't really think things through. Some things I say are offensive to people, though I don't intend for them to be.
For instance, I really like the swastika symbol. This is really REALLY offensive to some people, even when I explain that no, I don't like what the nazis did, no I don't wish jews any harm, and no, I do not like what happened in world war II. People seem to forget that the germans stole the swastika symbol from the japanese, and they in turn from some other culture. So, I learn simply not to say that anymore. I should learn to think everything through at least twice, before saying it.
2006-09-07 00:04:02 · answer #2 · answered by Benanen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People always get riled up in debates. It is human nature to try to destroy things we do not understand. Humans can be very emotional and cruel at times. Use your experience as power now and remember not to lash out at others when you do not understand them in the future. Keep asking questions. Ignorance may be bliss but knowledge is power. Curiosity killed the cat but satisfaction brought it back.
2006-09-07 00:17:29 · answer #3 · answered by charity2882 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to hear that...good example though. just human nature to counter on others. that's why actions speak louder than words...strive to be more articulate and that way people have the opportunity to understand your view. Good luck!
2006-09-07 00:13:52 · answer #4 · answered by vikingsonsltw 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your tone may be misleading or your expressions (hand movements, facial expressions) could appear to contrast your words.
Or they are too sensitive for the truth.
2006-09-07 00:00:54 · answer #5 · answered by CrackaJack 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
happens all the time to everyone. I feel so bad when people take me the wrong way.
2006-09-07 00:01:16 · answer #6 · answered by cookiejar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are just mean, bad people and they ought to be punished. How about we put a 'curse' on 'em, huh?
2006-09-07 00:02:06 · answer #7 · answered by Beejee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they don't understand the reasoning behind it
2006-09-07 00:01:36 · answer #8 · answered by aotea s 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There must be a breakdown in communication.
2006-09-07 00:00:22 · answer #9 · answered by Califrich 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i too am often misunderstood.....it may be in your delivery....i tend to be very direct, black/white try cushioning the way you speak it may be better received by others.
2006-09-07 00:00:41 · answer #10 · answered by askaway 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋