My husband and I dated 6 years before we got married this past January. I keep going through "baby fever" stages. We just moved to Missouri for three years or so, and the only thing stopping me from having a baby is the fact that we're not home around family and friends. The thing is though, we want six children and I'll be 23 in March. I just don't know what I want to do!
2006-09-06 16:56:30 · 11 answers · asked by ArbonneAdvertising 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I was 23 when I got pregnant, I wanted to have a baby so much. Being pregnant was fun (after all that nausea..) , than the baby came, and I realized I wasn't ready. Thank God my mom was here with me. (I'm from Europe, but I live in Texas with my husband and baby).
It's a lot of responsibility, a lot of work. Waking up in the middle of the night a hundred times, I was sooooo tired. At daytime is the same, and you have to be there for your baby, you can't just say "I'm tired". It's a lot of fun, it's a new feeling, and also a lot of stress! My husband is great, he is the best father, but we really needed my mom to help us out. Feeding (I was breast feeding for 10 months), changing diapers, bathing, going for a walk, try to calm the crying baby down...., and a lot more.And all after that comes the normal house work.....It's hard!
My baby is 15 months old now, and I would do everything all again for him (except the colic months, the sleepless nights.. :) , moms know ... )
Now things got a lot easier. He can spend a little time playing, watching his cartoons while I can cook and clean,and we can go to the store without being rushed because he is screaming....A lot of fun nowadays...He is the best!
So, if you think you're ready for these, than don't wait, but if you want to have a little more time with your husband and have fun than enjoy it, you are still young, not in a hurry .
Good luck!
2006-09-06 17:45:43 · answer #1 · answered by hedychambers 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is your husband going to be around to help you with those six children? That's a lot of kids, even in the best of circumstances. YOUR body is going to carry those babies for 9 mos. each. (that's 54 mos. of baby carryin') in YOUR stomach. If you are 23, now, with a little luck, and a set of twins, you could have all those babies by the time you are 27! or even 30! That would be a real good reason to have family and friends around. You have that first baby, and see if reality don't set in!
2006-09-07 00:07:40 · answer #2 · answered by Scorpius59 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What does your husband want? If he okay with trying to make a baby right now then why not? The baby will still get to see your family even if they are not right there, and the only family that baby really needs is you and your husband.
If your husband wants to wait then maybe you two can sit down and plan a date as to when you will start trying to get pregnant.
I am thinking that after about 2 kids you will change your mind about 6...LOL
Good Luck!
2006-09-07 00:00:28 · answer #3 · answered by sclay95843 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a kid and it is a great experience but definitely life changing,, I guess the best thing you can do is try to imagine how your life would be at this moment if you had 1 kid,2,3, etc... check all the aspects,,,if there is enough money,, if you have enough stability,, if you feel that you are personally satisfied with whom you are,,, may it be at work or in your career,, cause i now that if all the pieces are not together you might get anxious sometimes,,,you'll live but it is probably easier to sort this things out first.
2006-09-07 00:05:36 · answer #4 · answered by jiraruedas 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you close to anyone who has small children? If so, volunteer to babysit them for a few days. If being around one non-stop for a few days hasn't changed your mind, I would say that when you and your spouse are mentally and financially ready and have discussed things like childcare you're ready.
2006-09-07 00:06:59 · answer #5 · answered by Mariposa 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are only 23. Why not enjoy your married life together for a while before embarking on kids.
2006-09-06 23:59:48 · answer #6 · answered by sarah071267 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are really ever ready for them. I was 29 when I got pregnant. She was a total suprise. I just got married and was on our honeymoon when we got her. Watch the antibiotics!!!!!! But if you feel you are willing to change your who way of life and not resent it then I say go for it.
2006-09-06 23:59:59 · answer #7 · answered by jagbeeton 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
IF your ready do it and if you want 6 you better get busy.Best of luck
2006-09-07 00:00:30 · answer #8 · answered by shaylee b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU STILL HAVE TIME WHEN YOU AND YOUR HUSBAND ARE ABLE TO RAISE CHILDREN AND THAT IS THE CENTER OF YOUR LIFE YOU ARE THEN READY
2006-09-07 00:24:04 · answer #9 · answered by Irene 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you ever know when your " READY" with me they just happened, I wouldn't change a thing tho.............Just make sure, it is something you really, really want............ good luck to both of you.
2006-09-07 00:11:52 · answer #10 · answered by crazy2have3kids 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋