I have a friend that has been without a job for some time. He does not have a license because he did not have enough $$ to pay for his tickets and so license was suspended and now he needs 1000.00 to reinstate. No one will hire him w/o license so he has no $$. He has no family and his girlfriend (who lives across the street) dumped him and he has no place to go. He was evicted from his place last weekend and has basically been staying with her. He is homeless now with no place to go. He came over crying to me because he is in such bad financail shape and he is severly depressed. I mean this guy was balling. I need help and I know he could go to Salvation Army for shelter and means, but that does not solve a long term issue. Should I raise money for him. I am an avon rep. I need some help with this one because I hate to see him like this. He is a hard worker but he has no family, and no friends, nothing. Help!!!
2006-09-06 16:49:52 · 17 answers · asked by vickieann 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Maybe he would qualify for welfare to work program and they will send him a certain amnt of money a month and help him find a job.
Good luck and will keep him in my prayers!
2006-09-06 17:02:19 · answer #1 · answered by Gigi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you should not raise money for him. You are not his savior, and you don't have the resources to deal with all of his problems - in the end, you'll be broke, and he'll still be in trouble. The reason organizations such as the Salvation Army exist - and the reason why many generous people donate money to them - is because they have the skills, the time, and the resources to help people who are in serious trouble. The best thing you can do for your friend is to bring him to a place that can really help him.
2006-09-06 16:53:45 · answer #2 · answered by nkasoff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you should not raise money for him. Someone once told me that the lessons you remember are the ones you pay for. It sounds to me that he's paying for his. There are many ways to get to work without a car. And what employer asks if you have a car, unless they want you to do deliveries? If he's without a job "for some time", then maybe he needs to kick it into high gear. Find a job, dig out of this hole. His first job may not be a "great" paying job, but it will start him on the road. If he truly has no money, has he thought of going to school and applying for financial assistance. Many colleges offer student work on campus between classes. You can lend a helping hand by trying to help him find a job, but he is the one who needs to get out of the hole, not you.
2006-09-06 17:00:01 · answer #3 · answered by techmom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This might be what he needs to get his act together. He was not given tickets for no reason. $1000 is a lot of Avon to sell. He is seeing you as a patsy don't fall for it. Sound like he does more harm to himself than help himself. The long term issue is not your problem. If he is a hard worker someone would hire him. He can take the bus, walk, hitch, She dumped him for a reason also. He must be a leach.
2006-09-06 16:57:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont let him work on you like that. there are jobs out there if he wants to work. It may not be the job he wants, but any is better than none in his situation. You also have to look at why the girlfriend kicked him out. There are always two sides to every story. and the fact that there is no family and especially no friends tells me that there is definitely more to this story. Feeling sorry for him only enables him. Help with the immediate things. A shower, 2-3 days on your sofa, some hot meals. but if you truly care, after that kick him to the curb and make him stand on his own two feet. If you dont he'll be like gum on your shoe and you will never shake him,.
2006-09-06 16:57:00 · answer #5 · answered by rwdycwgrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is using you, and you're letting him.
If he's such a hard worker, then lack of transportation wouldn't stop him. He would find a job, and move into a cheap motel close to it, or use public transportation, or get a bicycle.
If he has no friends, perhaps it's because he used them all and they have no use for him.
Use your compassion wisely. Why didn't he park in the right place so he wouldn't get a ticket? He's a mooch and doesn't take responsibility for his actions.
He's crying to you because he sees you as a soft touch. Offer to drive him to a shelter, drop him off, end of story. He will suck you dry, and then you'll dump him too.
2006-09-06 16:53:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Salvation Army is where he should be for shelter DO NOT GIVE HIM MONEY. If he is a hard worker then HE will figure out what to do. Let go of mommies apron strings and support yourself. He's a user I've been there and done it and lost lots of money from it because I trusted people too much. Cut and let go believe me
2006-09-06 17:16:06 · answer #7 · answered by Chris 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what you're friend's personality is like, however I tried to help someone in a similar situation. Your friend my be a nicer, more easygoing person, than my experience.
I needed some work done in my house, he started the work and was doing a good job. I paid him what he asked, then he asked for more, and more, and more. I fed him breakfast, lunch and dinner, (which he constantly complained about and criticized). Then he called me stupid, when we tried to buy some parts at the store. All in all, he never finished the job, and I couldn't wait to get him out of my house.
My opinion is this; if he is polite and treats you with respect, and tries to help with repairs, etc. then he is worth helping.... If not he needs to go to charm school. It sounds as if yours is worth helping. Just letting you know my experience.
2006-09-06 17:04:55 · answer #8 · answered by sandra b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go to a shelter. They have counselors there who will work with him. Not having a license is not an excuse for not getting a job. He can ride the bus to work. Let him get out of this on his own but provide moral support. Don't loan money!
2006-09-06 16:55:08 · answer #9 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In situations like this.
I recommend taking your friend down to the red light district of town and show him the homeless people.
I know people who have corssed 6 borders to get in this county, speak no english, and have 3 kids. They clearly had something INSIDE of them. And they have probably seen REAL hardship somwhere else...
I think some internal inspiration could do some good here as well
Blessed,
2006-09-06 17:00:20 · answer #10 · answered by Two Tenths Of My Two Cents 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if he is your friend and you really care about him (it sounds like you do), why don't you find a way to raise the $1,000 that he needs to get his driver's license reinstated. Find a place for him to stay in the meantime, and help him out as best you can. Your kindness will be rewarded - if not in this life, then in the next.
2006-09-06 16:52:55 · answer #11 · answered by Perplexed Music Lover 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋