So i am 21 years old and have still not been able to have an orgasm from sex. the only way is if a guy goes down on me. I have been with over 15 partners.. and it still hasnt happened. I have even tried the whole mental thing trying not to think about it. It is just driving me crazy that i cannot enjoy sex like everybody else. I want to have an orgasm from sex... but dont know how! please help.. any advice?
2006-09-06 16:41:45 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
Learn to do it yourself.
Relax and have fun.
I think you can have lots of fun without the big O every time.
2006-09-06 16:44:54 · answer #1 · answered by Tavita 5 · 2⤊ 3⤋
Hi, I am 22 I didn't have my first one until I was 21, so I know what your going through. Even the whole going down part. I had over 16 partners and still nothing. Do you ever watch Sue Johanson "Talk Sex" it comes on Oxygen and I think Women's Life Time. She even has a website (great place for info). Try masturbation, even if you feel nervous and if you think people will think of you different don't tell them! You have to experiment that way you can know what makes you tick. When you get good at it then you can tell your partner what to do. Either way experiment have some fun and check out "Talk Sex" with Sue. Try the website www.tabutoys.com. Good luck and remember that it is completely normal that most women don't have orgasm until they're older, some of those don't even have one until they get pregnant.
2006-09-06 23:53:06 · answer #2 · answered by rosetta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have u ever tried a toy? Sometimes it's hard to have an orgasm just merely because you dont know your spots yet. There are millions of toys,gadjets to choose from and with your partner or just yourself you can find your X marks the spot much easier then u know where to direct him to go hope this helps!
2006-09-06 23:50:22 · answer #3 · answered by Gjroman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Loads of suggestions already. So I'll keep it to some practical tips. Stop reading if you don't want to read it.
Try your partner doggy style while he uses his fingers on your clit. Or try the 69 position, could work well also. Maybe get some toys in, or some adult tapes. They can give tips. Or, if you're not too comfortable finding tapes (or the proper tv channel), try those cheesy lady's novels you can buy in most stores. There are really good tips in those as well, if you get the right series.
2006-09-07 09:28:58 · answer #4 · answered by Lady_Bug 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many women out there that cannot achieve an orgasm from the actual act of intercourse. Maybe your partners aren't getting in contact with you as they should.. perhaps if they wore **** rings with a pressure pad for your enjoyment..
Ever ride a horse.. make your hips and backside move as if you were in the saddle, make the contact yourself..
Try reading some kama sutra books..
2006-09-06 23:47:39 · answer #5 · answered by sassy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've probably haven't found the right guy yet.
The right guy in question here meaning someone who's able to pleasure you at your own pace not just purely on his own selfish need (which is common mostly)
Which explains why men are from Mars and we are from Venus. Women tend to overthink when it comes to intercourse.
Sexual intimacy is something that needs to be achieved patiently & sensitively. Whereas men find instant gratification easily not so much with a lot of effort.
Although 15 partners and you're just 21?? Wow, how promiscuous! =P
I guess try to "pleasure" yourself first.
See, what/ how you like to be touched, etc. If you are able to achieve orgasm by masturbation, chances are you'll be able to when you do the dirty deed as well=) After all, who knows your body better but you, right?
Hoped this helped.
2006-09-07 00:03:48 · answer #6 · answered by ViRg() 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
you might have had 15 bad partners. clitoral stimulation is one of the easier ways to climax. mainly because it is the more common way a female masturbates. you could try using a dildo during masturbation to see how you enjoy being pleased.
you have to realize as well, that men, nor women for that matter, know intuitively how to sexually please their partner. some are easy so they just do what is easy and they feel that's it. some people take time and different techniques or positions to reach a goal. I'm sure if you were able to be with an older partner, say in their 30's they would be able to satisfy you.....or a man who has had an experience with an older women who took the time to show him what to do.
or you could just call me....
2006-09-06 23:48:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Instead of keep having sex stop having sex dont do it for a good two months and se what happens if that doesnt work then try using dildos to see which ones make you come then if it does you can tell the guy what he needs to do.
2006-09-07 00:09:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey Meesh,
Looks like you're getting alot of answers. You mentioned that you only climax when a guy goes down on you for oral pleasure. Sounds to me that your partners need to find your g-spot and stimulate that if that's what you want instead of your cl*tor*s. I make it my goal that my partner gets satisfied before I do, no matter what her pleasure is.
2006-09-07 01:41:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're doing it right.
If you think it comes from sex your basically WRONG.
The only way it comes from sex is when he does it the third or forth time, bascially because he can't orgasm anymore!
It takes most of an hour to make a girl orgasm. It takes 4 to 10 minutes to make a fresh guy orgasm!
2006-09-06 23:45:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
not all women are able to achieve orgasm during sex....if you have figured out how to attain one through oral, enjoy what you're getting, and try to just relax and enjoy rhe sexual experience rather than worrying about not being able to come. stress can tense your body to the point where it's completely impossible for you to achieve orgasm.
2006-09-06 23:45:08 · answer #11 · answered by corset wench 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋