what do I do about my Daughters boyfriend?

Question

I'am from Ohio and my 20 year old Daughter just had a baby in Indiana. which I went to see the baby born upon my daughters request. well her boyfriend which I don't know and never even spoke to before started calling me names such as bii-ch,sl-t and whore. it hurt my feeling so bad. and really confused me .what would you have done

Answer 1

i would have immediately castrated him with one of my steel toed boots.

Answer 2

Well, he is probably abusing her....isnt that ironic. That or she has said things to him about you that makes him feel he must be saying or doing something to protect her from you. Since she is asking you to come and since he is being SOO over the top rude I'd go with the abuse. The whole isolation from family thing. Ironic in that you ask earlier how abuse in this country still exists.......well.....this is how. Now what can we REALLY do about it? It's much easier said then done to leave. MUCH easier said than done. By the way......I am NOT being sarcastic. This is an honest answer so keep your eyes and ears open as a mother and stay in close contact with her so she DOESN'T feel she is alone and has no where to go.

Answer 3

Tell the daughter you love her and if she ever want to leave this loser, you will pick her up at the local women's shelter where she lives. Also tell her you will not visit if this is what can be expected as you have more respect for yourself than to subject yourself to this behavior. Also remind her this jerk was her choice, not yours, and you do not have to put up with this. Tell her you may contact children's services. Or do contact children's services. Walk away from this creep . He is likely dangerous if he feels comfortable enough to say things like this to you on a first meeting.

Answer 4

Either he is nuts(which may be a real possibility) or your daughter has said some very bad things about you and he was reacting to what he thought was true. Sit down with the nut job and find out what the cause is.

Answer 5

Wow. This is a tough one. I'd be confused too! Did your daughter witness this? Was she okay with it, or did she try to stop him?

Assuming your relationship with your daughter is otherwise okay, so it isn't likely she's been telling the guy stories, I'd start wondering if he's a nut or an abuser. I'd also be very concerned about the welfare of my daughter and grandbaby. If he's willing to publicly call you foul names, what is he willing to do to people who are helpless when he's alone with them?

Answer 6

first file charges on him for verbal assualt ..next ask your daughter what he was speaking about, next have the local authorities to issue a temperary restraining order so you can question your daughter and see your grand baby in peace, if he might be treating your daughter the same way, then you can safley have her talked into leaving with you just in case, until a court can settle the matter

Answer 7

Take you daughter back to Ohio, if he spoke to you like that just imagine how badly he must be treating your daughter and how he will treat your grandchild. Do it today and don't take no for an answer. Best wishes.

Answer 8

I would have told my daughter right in front of the asshole, that hes a piece of trash and you arnt coming back till hes gone. Id have to tell her that she picked a real winner. I hope hes not abusive towards her.

Answer 9

speak to your daughter about this! I'm sure she knows whats going on! I'm sorry to say that i think your daughter could have something to do with this!!

Answer 10

I would have said ...."You obviously have an erroneous impression of me, especially since this is the first time we met". Can we talk this over.

Answer 11

I would sit down with him and ask him why you say those things