Why did he set me "free"?

Question

for those who had anwered my previous question, i thank you.

now, the result has finally came. he does not have any feelings 4 me. he just wanna be friends. i accepted that coz there's no more hope to hope, if u get what i mean. but its really disappointing. after 1 1/2 yrs of fights, love, etc everything is over jus bcoz of one slap. yes. he slapped me. n he just couldnt forgive himself for that. i was very shocked. is it just another excuse? he said dat he vowed to himself never to lay his hands on a girl, and he did. and he's scared 2 continue. why? the reason seems so vague to me. how could he not forgive himself wen i'd forgive him n wanted the rship to carry on. things werent like this before n i always hoped that one day, we will live in our own world together again. i still believe but i guess, we're jus not fated. but no doubt, im still shattered. my very 1st relationship has ended. why?

Answer 1

Possible it shocked the hell out of him that he could slap a girl. There are lines that you feels they will never cross. Like I'll never cheat but when you do you are shocked by it. It maybe good to give him a rest. As violence in a relationship is very bad. It maybe be an issue of "wow I lost control of myself and that is damn scary. What if I do it again, did I like, god please don't let that be that person. I don't want to be the type of man who hits women." It could be. Or it could be that fight you had was a lot deeper to him then you may know.

Answer 2

I guess you need to move on. I'm sorry but once a man has put his hands on you it will keep going. It is hard to be alone and all you will go on. Life is funny as things happen for a reason and good always follow. Out of the blue you will meet someone else. Don't sit there and be sad life is really to short take it as a learning lesson. NOW THINK YOU COULD BE OUT MEETING THAT SPECIAL PERSON

Answer 3

ya it hurts. but its only going to hurt as long as you let it. if a man is going to slap you consider yourself lucky he is gone. if your fighting all the time it was doomed anyway. i have been with my husband for 18 years and we have never been in a fight. we talk about everything. he has never hit or slapped me. he never says anything bad about me. we are so close we finish each others sentences. i love it. the children will ask each of us a question at a different time and we give them the same answer without knowing it. that is what you want to wait for. be happy that the fighting is gone. wait for someone that you can share with and loves you no matter what silly ideas you come up with.

Answer 4

Its because it was your very first relationship ...... I bet you didn't really know what you wanted from him and he didn't know how to make you happy either. The fighting is a huge clue. the first relationships are a learning experience ..... so Learn !! Do the mental review ... make foot notes and Do Not Dwel on the whole baggage issue !! Focus on what caused the fights .... why wasn't he able to make you happy ... learn what triggered the fights and how to tell him what you need in the relation ship ... face it most fights are about either money or lack of communication ..... look at the flaws and know how to avoid them or fix / repair during the next relationship.

Answer 5

It does not matter why. What matters is that you must recognise it is time you moved on. Everybody has to find their way to the one who loves them. You must do the same. You are young and your world is only beginning. Trust Life to bring you someone who is grander and more worthy of your love, than the one who has left you behind. So in the meantime be at peace with yourself and let go of the past. Though it might not look like it now, your good times are really ahead of you, not behind you.

Answer 6

Just be greatful your out of there, a slap turns into a punch a punch into a strangle, trust me, been there done that.
You will find someone else soon, just enjoy your time as a free woman and catch up with your gf's, theres so much more to life than boys.

Answer 7

I may be wrong but it sounds like to me he's trying to find an easy way out of the realitionship, you should of been the one saying its over and him begging you to take him back it. I think he maybe has fallen out of love I would move on and not stress and go over it agin and again it will get you no where, If your still talking ask him straight up if he wants out and see what he says,
good luck.

Answer 8

You should the one not to forgive him; you should the one want to end the relationship; you should be the one to set him free! You can't accept probably because it's he who brought it up to end the relationship. Think in different way, won't it's better for him to leave you? He definitely not worth your much attention. He don't love you.

Answer 9

i'm sorry. but get him outta your mind gurl! he SLAPPED u! now i know u dont wanna be no sissy. get sum revenge gurl!!! but not 2 much.!! thats sad. no guy should eva go that far as 2 slap a gurl. even in a fight. get a new flame! there's bound to be cuter and better fish in da sea! (even if u don't like fish, LOL)

Answer 10

One slap, then another, then another, then another, how many slaps do you need before you tell yourself to RUN!, as fast and as far as you can.