A girl i hate is pregnant and have been trying for such a long time. I feel so bitter but dont want to waste my energy on her, i cant help feeling so angry though. Any advice?
2006-09-06 15:52:56 · 12 answers · asked by ducky 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
think about Karma and what goes around comes around ,maybe all the negativity and bitterness you are choosing to surround yourself with is preventing you from achieving your goal, Once I knew this person who wanted to crucify me and make my life miserable,I had to sell my house (That we had just built) and move and I fought so hard to stop myself from stooping to her low level and seeking revenge so I put my faith in Karma within 1 year I received a free trip to Paris and got pregnant,had a beautiful baby girl,last I heard about her was that she was having really bad marriage and financial problems.......and we are really happy ,love our new house, I still stop myself when I think badly about her, its just not worth it ... think positive and believe you will have your own little baby soon ,good luck xx
2006-09-06 16:10:59 · answer #1 · answered by that b puss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope when you use the strong word hate, that you actually mean - a girl who i don't like( for what ever reason).
i do understand you feeling bitter,and think it is a common feeling amongst women who have been battling to fall pregnant. it certainly does not help ,when wellmeaning people around you ,keep asking if you are pregnant yet.
i have known 3 women, who i was eventually convinced would not ever have kids, who fell pregnant naturally. all 3 had eventually stopped obsessing about it, and when it was out of their minds ,it just happened. one had done up a nursery and eventually got rid of everything, only to have to start again a few months later.she ofcourse did not mind.all 3 ladies now have 2 children each.
it is good that you can express your anger,as many women silently bear it.i am sure there are women out there who may appear smug about their conceiving(and i have the feeling that the one you are talking about may be so) , but maybe instead of them showing you up, they are just happy to be in that state-as they should be. having a baby is a miracle and blessing, and each new life should be celebrated. so instead of feeling bitter,which i realize is aimed at the woman, think that by some devine intervention a new person is entering the world and that she is just the vessel.when you can find happiness at thoughts like that ,bitterness will subside .
you have not mentioned how long you have been trying or whether you have discussed it with your doctor. that could be a next step for you,as there are tests that can be done to rule out some possible problems. this would give you peace of mind, one way or the other.
2006-09-06 20:24:42 · answer #2 · answered by saywot? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't blame you for feeling bitter - some people seem to fall pregnant at the drop of a hat while others struggle.
How long have you been trying? If it's been over a year you can get fertility investigations done to find out if there's a problem.
If it's any consolation true infertility (ie never, ever be able to conceive) is comparitively rare.
2006-09-06 17:05:55 · answer #3 · answered by Hello Dave 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Try to conceive without results is hard, and it's even harder to see some one you don't like conceive so easy. Start doing yoga. I know it sounds funny but it relaxes you and puts you in a better frame of mind to focus on your self. Also check in with you Dr. Tell him of you trouble conceiving, and see what he has to say. I've been trying for two years and I know how you feel. One thing that helps me is to think if I did have a child how would I want to teach them to act. I choose to work harder at having a baby and less time worrying about others. (Sometimes it's harder than others)
2006-09-07 23:55:53 · answer #4 · answered by babyrat269 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you believe in God then you should talk to him and confess how you feel about this girl and ask him to help you overcome your resentment and forgive her for whatever she has done. Otherwise this girl will always have power over you because she controls how you are feeling.
The more you focus on others and feel hatred and jealousy, the further you distance yourself from the things you want in life.
Everything happens for a reason. If you are hoping to have a baby yourself, I know you don't want to concieve and birth a child from a body full of envy and bitterness. Those bad feelings will be passed on to that child's spirit and both you and your child will exsist as unhappy people.
Try to work on forgiveness. Replace every bad thought about this girl with a good one. Sometimes when my mind wanders to someone who has hurt me I say "God Bless" to myself instead of something mean.
I hope this makes you feel better.
2006-09-06 16:09:52 · answer #5 · answered by anosey1 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
If i understand what you are saying, you said the girl you hate is pregnant.
pregnant for who?
if you have hated her why do you put her in a family way?
did anybody force you to her?
i dont believe you hate her because if you hate her you would not enter into any relationship with her.
However, you better look for a girl you will love and stop waisting you/her time
2006-09-06 23:27:38 · answer #6 · answered by babygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound young. Please don't be angry. She will now be committed to waking up at any given hour, and the diapers, the feeding, etc... it's not easy! If you hate her, let it go...go find something else to dwell on. And if you're trying to get pregnant, FORGET ABOUT IT! I'm saying ,relax! Quit trying to get pregnant, and just have fun! It will happen when you quit trying ! Worrying about it KEEPS you from getting preggo. Trust me , unless you're 40 yrs. old, YOU HAVE TIME !!! ( or maybe changing diapers sounds like FUN? )
2006-09-06 16:04:36 · answer #7 · answered by Scorpius59 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Give the pillows a good kicking. It will happen soon honeybun, I have my Mum lighting candles for you after mass each Sunday.
2006-09-07 01:02:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all it is sad that you feel so negative towards a person, but i think that you already answered this question.......don't waste your energy on her.
2006-09-06 15:55:19 · answer #9 · answered by rabika97 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
best way to fall pregnant is to enjoy the sex ur having
2006-09-06 15:55:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋