We have talked and being in and out of relationships between 10 years. We both each other but I am in one going on 8 years but love is fading away.
2006-09-06 15:41:23 · 14 answers · asked by swpbredbonehiyllow 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The grass is always greener ...
You have been in a relationship with someone for 8 years and that should count for something. It seems its more a question of why your love with him seems to be fading and better yet is the relationship worth working on!
Life changes people ... and it would take time to really get to know your first love again. Why does the song "Unanswered Prayers" keep running through my mind as I type this.
Sounds like its time to do some real soul searching on your part before you make any rash decisions. Is your current relationship worth working on? What is it you are really looking for? What ended your relationship with your 'first love'?
Love isn't always easy ... but in the end well worth working on.
Best of luck to you in whatever choice you make.
2006-09-06 16:04:46 · answer #1 · answered by J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have been in a relationship for 8 years, you should give it a chance. Is the love really fading or are you just excited and curious about your first love?
I have to admit, that I am curious about my first love and how things have gone for him but I know without a shadow of a doubt that no matter what, I would never cheat on my husband.
If you are not married and the relationship really is in trouble, I would first say try to work it out but if you can't, see your first love but remember if it wasn't meant to be, it still isn't. Don't jump out of the frying pan into the fire but if your current relationship is going no where check it out. It would be best to be honest with your current partner and let him know that you want to find out if there is anything there but be sure you are willing to lose him if he doesn't agree with this.
Good Luck
2006-09-06 15:49:23 · answer #2 · answered by nellie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Answer this is love fading away because of the re-connection with the old love? Answer honestly! When love gets tough its easy to go back to the one you knew than to move on. Im not saying it wouldnt work out but the chances are that the reason it didnt work out the first time is the same reason is wouldnt this time. Old problems would more than likely resurface. Go slow and dont screw up your life because you are both finding the need to 'talk'. The familiar is always going to be the familiar that doesnt mean its ideal though.
2006-09-06 15:48:47 · answer #3 · answered by Lynne B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my (thus far) life experience, I would have to suggest that you look at your current relationship carefully before you think about your first love..
Why is the love fading away? Is it something worth working on, if that first love didn't come back into the picture?
After that, I would ask myself if a relationship with my first love again, would lead to more than it did last time (obvious break-up)
Don't let someone coming into your life that you once knew in a romantic way break up what you currently have. Make sure it is for the right reasons.
I wish you good luck :)
2006-09-06 15:46:25 · answer #4 · answered by Mike n 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Treat him like any other perspective suitor. Consider him, but don't give him any more merit than any other new suitor. After 15 years, he is not going to be the same man. Don't be tempted to idealize him or your 15 year old memories.
2006-09-06 15:47:21 · answer #5 · answered by shadow_watt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's up to you to try and save your present marriage if possible or arrange for all of you to have a 3-some and become mutual friends.
2006-09-06 15:50:43 · answer #6 · answered by eugene65ca 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His lose hello you are with someone else, dont hurt that person just because some jerk came to find you after 15yrs. tell him to move on. i guess now he knows what he missed out on. sorry but honesty is the best medicine.
2006-09-06 15:46:04 · answer #7 · answered by Emma G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he came back after 15 years! how long will he stay by u, and when again is he planning to do the runna??
2006-09-06 15:43:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go for the guy you've known for years, the one who came back. it sounds like true love to me.
2006-09-06 15:48:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats a good question! in my current situation ,i might consider my first love. but, remember that all relationships get rocky.
2006-09-06 16:40:18 · answer #10 · answered by mobs8970 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋