She always blames me when things go wrong,and tries to come between me and my husband, my self esteem has been knocked down so often by her,but she can never seem to do anything wrong in my husbands eyes,she is sly and vindictive ,but i cant not have her in my life because shes my sons gran,what can i do?
2006-09-06 15:35:45 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
look here, just keep doin what u are doin, dont even worry about that, i understand u dont wanna have any complications, which is right, dont change that. just smile and say hi, if she gives u attitude, "who cares" she is older then u, and it would be funny that she realizes one day taht you keep it real.
but i wouldnt definitely put up with that husband of yours. if he cant step up and be a man and tell his mother to be nice then something is wrong, he loves his mom, but he suppose to be a man and tell her "hey this is my lady , and ur gonna have comply by respecting her, now mom i dont want any problems" man you are a good one. the bottom line is. the question u asked doesnt have nothing to do with his mom, its your husband, he should tell her something. until the day taht he do tell her, just be prepared to get cussed out or whatever. good luck and god bless u and your family.
2006-09-06 15:42:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your mother-in-law is jealous of you and the attention paid to you by her son. She will only get worse over time. (I've been married for 22 years.) You need to talk with a counselor or therapist or clergy member to formulate a plan to go to this woman and put your cards on the table. Discuss (with kindness and respect) how she makes you feel. This is not the kind of problem that will just get better on its own. Its best to tackle it now before it ends badly for you and your spouse. If you get just one session with a professional so that you can come up with a strategy that will help to change things you might just live happily ever after. Good Luck!
2006-09-06 15:48:41 · answer #2 · answered by mimi22 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a mother-in-law like that, I divorced her son. I don't know how much you love your husband, but if it's a lot, then ask her why she does these things, and try to come to some sort of connection. If her answers aren't suffient, then it's up to you, if you want your child to be influenced by the actions and abuse your mother-in-law bombards you with. Children learn from what they see and hear. Good Luck and God Bless!!
2006-09-06 15:53:51 · answer #3 · answered by santos wiggins 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In her eyes you took her son away from her and and turn him into your sex slave. Not being funny but it's the truth. Just get back at her. Next time you are at her house hang on your husband like a (Forgive the word, cause you not) a Sl#t and give him a big wet sloppy kiss in front of her and then tell her we have to go because it's my turn with the whip. And crack a big smile when you leave.
2006-09-06 15:44:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know mine is the same way. She just moved in with us and she now has to pick on me. I think they do it because they do get jealous that their sons do for their wives what they want done for them. I wouldn't get to down about her insults though, just let them go in one ear and out the other. I know its hard but you have to learn to show that it doesn't bother you. Your husband probably feels a certain kind of obligation towards her. So I wouldn't take it personally if he tends to side with her. My husband does the same but he started to see the truth when I left the camcorder running and she just happened to be on a rampage and I was taping the baby. Good luck to you and stay strong.
2006-09-06 16:09:31 · answer #5 · answered by Nikie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hear ya!!
I went through the same situation, and believe it or not, the advice I got on here is what helped me. Now, your situation is not exactly the same, but close.
First of all, you need to talk to hubby and get him on your side, let him know how much this is upsetting you, and how you are afraid this might affect your son. Just be sure to get his attention, when you do, get him to agree to talk to his mom.
After he does, call on a truce luncheon, or dinner. Make it very public, just you and her. Then, it's your turn to talk to her. be honest, be fair, and, be willing to listen. There might just be a reason for this behavior, you never know.
Best of luck to you, I'm crossing my fingers and saying a prayer for you.
By the way, it worked for me :)
2006-09-06 15:45:29 · answer #6 · answered by Torri * 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Its sound like your husband is a momma's boy and needs to grow up and defend his wife and son I cant stand grown *** men who dont stand up to their mothers Its just wrong. Tell your husband how you feel dont be nice to chick no more treat her how she treats you like s.h.i.t and dont spare her feelings she doesnt yours. But talk to your husband let him know youre hurting inside and if he still doesn't listen leave him and then maybe just maybe he will stick-up for you, you are his wife. I hope this helps good-luck.
2006-09-06 15:44:35 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is over-protective and loves her son and does want him to get hurt so you'll have to convince her that you cherish her son too.
2006-09-06 15:41:57 · answer #8 · answered by eugene65ca 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sh******T ,I thought I was the only one with that problem....!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-06 15:50:46 · answer #9 · answered by john l 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋