She was once in a relationship with my boyfriend, and when she is in town (lives in the city) she will try to call him to get him to go out with her. How do you think I should deal with this?
My boyfriend does answer or respond to her calls, but it still aggravates me.
2006-09-06 15:23:28 · 9 answers · asked by nunya 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
he doesn't go so why the anger? You are letting a woman you don't even know control you. Think about it and stop it!!!
2006-09-06 15:26:55 · answer #1 · answered by tanya 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Your sentence about your boyfriend does or respond to her calls has me confused as to whether or not he is or is not responding to her calls. Being on myself and taking meds. to manage the illness i can imagine what she is going through but if she isn't taking her meds. or is misdiagnosed it's a whole different ball game. I think you should forget her and have good communication with your boyfriend to keep things out in the open for your relationship. I'm only going by the few things you mentioned but I feel it's the best advice I can give you at this time.
2006-09-06 22:52:54 · answer #2 · answered by Linda R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend "does" or "doesn't" answer her calls? As a retired mental health professional with 20+ years experience, I can refer you to the American Psychiatric Association's Diagnostic and Statistical Manual (DSM), in whatever version they're currently using, to get a very specific, detailed list of criteria for the diagnosis of "manic-depression". When I was working, the term would be "Bi-Polar disorder, Manic" or "Depressed" or "Cyclic" to refer to an up and down affective disorder. Be sure you know how she got the diagnosis, and how YOU were TOLD she was diagnosed as such. Many people claim that diagnosis and don't have a clue about what they're talking about, or are just flat lying. I would be very attentive to alcohol or other drug abuse or addiction, and any Personality Disorder diagnosis as well. People hide behind these psychiatric diagnoses, when, in reality, they're just sorry-assses who refuse to take responsibility for their destructive behaviors. And those who are diagnosed as such often don't take the medicines they are prescribed, at all or as the doctor prescribed them. So, don't assume she truly is "manic-depressed". Other factors are often hiding in there, and neither the client wants to know nor the diagnosing clinician has the give-a-damn or knowledge to see it. Stand your ground. If things don't go your way, make things harder on her, in a legal/law enforcement sort of way. That's all they understand. God Bless you.
2006-09-06 22:38:34 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't see that being or not being manic-depressive has anything to do with her calling. You say he does answer her calls, so maybe he enjoys the attention. If you meant he doesN'T answer then perhaps he should answer and firmly request she not contact him again, then refuse ALL future calls from her. Regardless of which you meant, only he can decide how to handle it. Gals/guys frequently pursue past relationships, some just don't know when to quit, and some pursued guys/gals secretly enjoy the attention while pretending they do not.
2006-09-06 23:35:16 · answer #4 · answered by Dan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as your boyfriend does not answer or respond to her calls, everything is fine.
Obviously, however, she is obsessed with him. Any contact from your boyfriend will only strengthen her delusion that "He still loves only me. What we had was the most amazing thing any one could have ever experienced ever..."
2006-09-06 22:28:13 · answer #5 · answered by special-chemical-x 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being bi-polar, let me assure you she doesn not want him......it is very hard to let go of past relationships.....i just want to be friends with everyone.....never have like "burning bridges" and it sounds like he has chosen you rather than her............me thinks you need to get a life outside your boyfriend......don't assume anything until he tells you he is leaving your for her....
2006-09-06 22:37:19 · answer #6 · answered by Cassie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your "man" to stop being a passive-aggresive p*ssy and the hoe to not call his phone again and that he doesn't want to talk to her...even tell the dude to change his number
2006-09-06 23:08:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not about you- he does not call her back- why let her make you feel that way?
2006-09-06 22:29:11 · answer #8 · answered by Angie A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very carefully, You will be playing with a loaded gun.
2006-09-06 23:27:07 · answer #9 · answered by dancinintherain 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋