What makes you think my son is a spoiled brat, I hardly ever see him. I see my daughter in law and my grandson more often. I keep my grandson almost ever weekend and give up my free time, which I do not regret at all because I love my grandson with all of my heart. I do this so my son and his wife will have more alone time to work on their marriage. I guess it did not work. What do you suggest I do now?
2006-09-06 15:22:48 · 12 answers · asked by PegSl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sYou sound just like my Mil,She was always their when she was needed.
Years down the road your grandson will have all those great memories of his time he spent with grandma.Regardless of the problems your son & daugther in-law face in life .Staying neutral for the little boys sake is paramount because he may need to lean on you for support and understanding don't make him feel as if he has to choose sides with you three.
Part of life is making mistakes and bad descions and how well we learn from them.When this all blows over maybe there want be any negative feels against granma...
2006-09-06 15:47:42 · answer #1 · answered by nighneev 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grandparents are said to be more loving and caring for their grandchildren than their children. Perhaps. Maybe not.
You have taken steps not to interfere with those two married adults and that is commendable. It appears however that it is possible that when you tend to your grandson every weekend, his parents, instead of spending time together actually spend the time doing their own thing away from each other. The absence of the child gave them freedom of movement to tend to their individual business without even trying to share it with each other.
I suggest that you let them stew over a few weekends by refusing to take in your grandson so that they will both be compelled to stay together and attend to their child. Perhaps in that manner, they'd start talking and develop a stronger communication link with a gradual opening of the channel. The child's need for care should be a pivotal factor to heal whatever rift your son and his wife have.
2006-09-06 22:31:20 · answer #2 · answered by Bummerang 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you had good relationship with your daughter in-law I suggest that you keep that good relationship both for your grandson sake. No point taking sides on this one. I'm sure there are few people who which they had a mother in-law like you.
2006-09-06 22:27:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see fear in what you wrote.. fear that if that marriage breaks up you will lose your daugher in law and see less of your grandson.. and yes that can happen if your son meets another women and you get pulled apart..
keep it cool with your daughter in law no matter what.. so that grandson will be in your life.
Go to A.A.R.P. message board on grandparents rights and protect your self and grandson from the "just in case"
2006-09-06 22:32:37 · answer #4 · answered by Ibdreamin099 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. You really did get dumped on. Just went to read your other question. Well, first of all, let those answers run off your back like water. Please don't lose sleep over them. I really have no advice. I guess just go with "gut" instinct. Take one day at a time. Do the best you can. Good Luck
2006-09-06 22:33:18 · answer #5 · answered by old_woman_84 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep spending time with your grandson.
2006-09-06 22:24:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do like I do. My son is married. They have 3 kids. My
d-i-l does not like me. I have done nothing to her...never interfered and I mind my own business. The kids call me
and we talk. Other than that I have no contact with my d-i-l. If my son should stop by we talk and he goes home.
I know this sounds strange but I like my relationship with my d-i-l like this. She put up the barriers not I. Let your kids figure things out for themselves.
2006-09-06 22:29:48 · answer #7 · answered by Lore 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spend time with your grandson. ... and keep out of their marriage.
2006-09-06 22:26:11 · answer #8 · answered by Avid 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a great Grandmother!!! You can't control your sons marriage though!!! Its not your fault, just keep doing what you are doing!
2006-09-06 22:26:29 · answer #9 · answered by ***Miss Ria*** 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to talk to his wife about it. See if she can explain to him how much you would love if he came to see you more often. If you were my mother in law I would make sure you always felt appreciated and would never allow my husband to undermine his own mother- Good luck sweety.
2006-09-06 22:26:20 · answer #10 · answered by mary07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋