Been married over 25 yrs to older man who is good to me and loves me but is not "in love" with me. I just want to find happiness again and think I can with this other man.
2006-09-06 15:18:27 · 30 answers · asked by confused and unhappy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Stay with your husband. Don't throw away 25+ years of history with a man who is good to you and loves you----- for what is probably not love, but a lust-driven infatuation.
2006-09-06 16:05:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow lucky you a good man. So you think you can't find happiness again with the man you married? 25 years a long time. Midlife crisis to me. You need to talk with your husband and tell him how you feel. Right now this single guy is making you feel very special and making feel young and beautiful and I'm sure the lists goes on and on. But you have some serious thinking to do. I'm sure marriage counseling might help, if you want to do this. What's your definition of happiness, and younger man? Seriously if you can make things happen again with your husband of 25yrs then do it. I wouldn't throw away 25 year with a good man. Even if he was older.
2006-09-06 22:32:45 · answer #2 · answered by nicknacpattymac 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
after 25 years are u willing to sacrafice everything that u have built with that man? I mean come on the grass isnt always greener on the other side, if it were more people would be divorced long b4 25 years. u married him 4 better 4 worse and till death do u part...right? well then stick to ur man...talk to him and try to work things out and make things more like they once were....im sure it is not just love u have to work on the inlove thing as much as he does...
2006-09-06 22:21:36 · answer #3 · answered by Eastcoast beachgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many people search out others that they feel have qualities that their spouse lacks. In some instances, only the idea of a person having a quality leads to affair-type situations. For example, someone may have a crush on Johnny Depp because he is a "deep" individual. But how do they really know? People imprint what they wish their partners were onto others. This may not be your situation but look into what you are lacking that is making you seach in the first place.
2006-09-06 22:24:47 · answer #4 · answered by John S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I Think you have a Serious Problem
Not with your Marraige Not about The Other Man
But With Yourself..
I think you are immature and irresponsible,
thinking only about what You Want..
You married this man 25 years ago.
What about HIM , what about your Children
And the Same of this others mans family
What about All the Lives you are going to destroy
Just to Please Yourself..
SUCK it Up Lady and DEAL with it.
Do the Right Thing for everyone concerned
STAY PUT
2006-09-06 22:47:18 · answer #5 · answered by Cheers 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man where have we put the "'till death" part?
Why marry?
This angers me, that people fill this way!
Advice to all, this is why I disagree with marriage!
25 years and now he's not that anymore????
Do the husband a favor...tell him...let him cry... then spit in his face!
You already have cheated on your husband...I know by the way you talk!!!
Leave all behind, take NOTHING, you owe the husband that much!!!!!!!!!!
I love the way you people cheat, then want to leave, then want all the good stuff....... like you are all that!!!!!!!!
Leave him alone...go........don't turn back...he will learn to leave without you!!!!
Thinking otherwise now???????
Yes we do get over you,some take longer.... the result is the same...see ya!!!!!!!!!!
You already cheated if not in your mind....still cheating!!!!
take the "T" out of cheat and replace it with a "P" and you have you!!!
Kiss him...'cause your gonna miss him....when he's gone!!!
2006-09-06 22:34:00 · answer #6 · answered by transvainia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you know your husband doesnt love you? Maybe your marriage just got stale. you need to spice it up and go do the type of things like when you first met. you probably were close then. I was in a "loveless" marriage, years back. i met a man who told me he "loved" me. turned out to be a scary person, hot tempered, psycotic, ect. ended up getting a restraining order on him . something new almost always seems great. once you get to know the person, they could be a jeckel and hyde. then you ended up hurting your husband. does your husband want to divorce you? it's best to be free first, alot of pain and heartache can come from this sort of thing. but i think i understand how you feel.......
2006-09-06 22:31:13 · answer #7 · answered by savedin1970 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ive been in that situation b4...i was married for 2 yrs. and his 8 yrs.older than i am....he always said he loves me but not INLOVE with me...b4 i really dont understand what is the different between the 2...now,he filled the divorce and it hurts me so bad after that i realized that maybe i need to move on and find happiness...now,i did and fall inlove again....
i got to realized that u need to think what u want and were u r happy...money cannot buy happiness or power, u need to feel what inside of u...its all about u....nobody care its all about u coz time that ur down u need to find ur way to be happy again...
so,think about it...think about urself......in life u need to be happy to reach all ur goals....
2006-09-06 22:28:51 · answer #8 · answered by capricorn girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do some serious thinking yourself and have some serious talks with your husband. If he really isn't in love with you and you don't really like him then your sexual relationship is probably over although that doesn't mean you can't remain friends or break up on good terms or even stay very close.
2006-09-06 22:23:34 · answer #9 · answered by Matt M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being married for 25 years means you are mature enough to decide for yourself and in knowing what is right and wrong for you and others. Therefore, it is only you who can decide for yourself and that decision will have both rewards and consequences that you alone in your situation could appreciate.
Good luck.
2006-09-06 22:21:55 · answer #10 · answered by Bummerang 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋