My psychology teacher said???

Question

My psychology teacher said that women normally go for personalty while men go for looks. He also said that normally in a relationships, men and women are normally on the same attractive level. To me this doesn't make any sense cause if that was the case women would go for more looks as well. What do you think about this?

Answer 1

i think that initially men are attracted by a woman's looks and women are initially attracted by a man's looks too. statistically men and women who are similar in attractiveness (looks) are more likely to establish a relationship. I also think that after the inital attraction women are then influenced by a man's personality but more importantly their intelligence. studies state that men look for a woman with particular physical features that indicate her ability to conceive children and women look for men with particular characteristics that reflect his intelligence and therefore his ablitity to provide her off spring with a better opportunity for survival.

Answer 2

I think that your teacher was mostly right but may have failed to mention that men and women have different ideas of what makes someone attractive. The rules of attraction are pretty much the same as they were in more primitive times. Mens' ideas of attractiveness usually revolve more around look because of a hard-wired desire to find fertile females. And women tend look more for someone who has the capacity to protect and provide for them and any offspring. So if that results in the slim girl with an hour glass figure hooking up with a man with an expensive suit and big muscles, I guess the system works. Maybe that's also why big chicks often end up with skinny guys.

Answer 3

I think there is more to this than your teacher is saying, though it seems he is just touching the surface like most school subjects do. It's more complicated than that. There seems to be always, first, a physical attraction for both genders initially. How can a woman know the personality of the man without being able to approach him first? Personalities dont' come out during the initial meeting, that takes alot of time. We all look for different things in another person, but when the "real deal" comes about, both men and women want someone who's personality is most like theirs, and someone who they can look forward to spending the rest of their lives with. His statement is just saying that men are shallow and i don't feel this is the case at all!

Answer 4

As a woman, I find the following things attactive in a man:

Charisma
Honesty
Charm
Confidence
Wit
Sense of Humor
Stability
Elegance
Quiet and Assured
A bit of a Scoundrel

Of course, a handsome face is a plus too and is a matter of taste.

Everyone knows that men are usually attracted to physical attributes in a woman. That's why we work so hard to look hot.

I do not understand your teachers statement about being on the same attractive levels.

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Answer 5

the only reason guys go for looks first is cause they dont see themselves in a lasting relationship with that person and cant get past the physical part of it. The women thinks beyond that point and knows that overall, personality is what makes a person qualified for long term relationships. If women were only looking for a one night stand, then they too will think that looks are more important at the moment.

Answer 6

Ok, here's what they meant...

According to psychology women look to men for someone who is kind and compatible to care for them and who will make a good father, while men are attracted to looks in order to further their line, ie., good looking children.

Being on the same attraction level does not mean that they are attracted to the same thing. It means they are just as attracted as the other person is, but for different reasons.

Answer 7

here is what my psyc teacher eplain the following ways that people look for in a potential 'mate':
1 homogeneous (same reglion/ ethnicity)
2 Matching (physical attachtiveness, same level)
3 exchange (looks for those who give more then take, rarely 50/50) 4 complementary (shy person/outgoing person)
my opinion is that men and women look for personality and attractiveness in relationships the same, it's just some women dont want to admit that b/c it makes them seem shallow or somthing.

Answer 8

It makes perfect sense, let me put it to you in a different perspective: When you see a not so good looking man with a Chubby girl.... or when you see a not so good looking man with a real pretty girl and maybe the guy has some $$$, making sense to you now? the same attractive level...........I see it all the time.

Answer 9

I believe it to be false. I go for personality and looks. Yes he can have a great personality but if I don't like what i see at least a little I would not be happy. My husband has dated women surely not based on sight lol

Answer 10

Ok here...My boyfriend's personality is what does it for me. I would say we are equally attractive, but if I had to pick between a guy who was somewhat more attractive with a bad personality and my boyfriend, I would pick my boyfriend. I don't know, does that make sense?