how are you coping? Do you still feel shame? If you could change your past would you?
not cruel answers please
2006-09-06 15:06:26 · 14 answers · asked by moejaymom 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I was sexually abused, told about it and was told to be quiet... mu abuse was denied for many years and still have only one big Bro' who really trusts where I have been and has cried for me.
2006-09-06 15:09:16 · update #1
Yes i was from the age of 3 until 12. I felt the shame for many years but then i realized i was the child and had no responsibility what some don't realize is that even if you feel pleasure you do not know what you are doing and no I would not change the past because it made me a stronger more intelligent woman. I fostered many sexually abused children and helped them through their mental stresses if it had not happened to me i could not have understood the emotional pain enough to help them.
2006-09-06 15:11:19 · answer #1 · answered by jusme 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Many of us were, and we cope in different ways. Illicit drugs did it for me, but it's only a stop-gap measure that has limited effect. Sooner or later you have to deal with the issue in order to get closure.
Shame? Difficult to say after all these years, but a shadow of shame remains though I've pretty much put it all in perspective by now.
Yes, I'd change what happened if I could, but I can't so I settle for moving on and trying to do what I can to help make sure it doesn't happen again - even though it happens to other poor kids every day.
No cruel answers? It's a cruel question, and many victims don't like to see or hear it. You may get some cruel answers, but pretend you're shopping at the mall and ignore that which you have no intention of buying.
Good luck.
2006-09-06 22:18:29 · answer #2 · answered by My Evil Twin 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Among other terrible things yes I was. At times I still have trouble coping and feel shame as well. But all in all as bad as things were for me it has made me who I am today. I'm not like anyone else. We're all different, but the footprints of your life are stepping stones to who you are. And if you can find faith in time those footprints will fade away and it all becomes a beaten path which you can walk down without actually holding your head down. I know what I mean, I hope that makes sense to you.
2006-09-06 22:40:48 · answer #3 · answered by ~Mother Of Angels~ 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My coping method was to pretend it didn't happen for many years... ("I misinterpreted what he did, I was exaggerating", "that didn't actually happen", etc) apparently resulting in years of repression.
Yeah, I feel like it was my fault sometimes, but enough years later I'm just mad at him and that he viewed me as an object...
I definitely would remove this from my past if I could, but I suppose in some ways it's made me who I am, for good or bad.
I hope you have a better time dealing with what happened to you. I think society deals terribly with these offenders, and that anyone who makes excuses for an abuser when they know this is happening should be ashamed.
2006-09-06 22:18:39 · answer #4 · answered by solitusfactum 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes I was, when I was 4 years old. I am done coping. No, I don't feel any shame and haven't for years. No, I wouldn't change my past because it is a significant part of who I am.
I hope that you become comfortable with yourself as well.
2006-09-06 22:13:20 · answer #5 · answered by cyanne2ak 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No I am sorry I was never sexually abused as a child, I think that is one of the most terrible things to happen to children, and I would like to see all child predators dead..sorry that last part might sound cruel..but I think it would be a etter world
2006-09-06 22:09:17 · answer #6 · answered by hahaha 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Nope never. I do feel sorry for those who were violated by some close friends, family members or who ever else.
I would feel ashame and hide it...but some cases that would just snowball the issue and you would never be in a stable relationship. Until you confront your reality and accept. I know it is painful to endure but with the right support it could be done.
2006-09-06 22:53:17 · answer #7 · answered by de_dark_angel71 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have never been abused personally, but know people that have been. I dont get mad over much, but that is one thing that makes me pissed. I would have to agree the world would be a better place without them.
2006-09-06 23:14:33 · answer #8 · answered by TR 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Its much more prevalent than you would imagine, Know you are not alone, and we all get through the painful times.
2006-09-06 23:43:41 · answer #9 · answered by hipichick777 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it was attempted but i took control of the situation and went to my mom(who was sexually abused) and she took care of the problematic relative and kept me safe
2006-09-06 23:02:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋