Let's say you're in a highly stressful occupation - doing the work of several people because management has put a moratorium on hiring; struggling to meet deadlines; working 12-15 hour days to complete a project that is due by the end of the month. It's affecting your family life. You're worried and exhausted. It's showing, and your coworkers and friends are concerned about you. Your boss calls you in and chastises you for appearing nervous and worried, and tells you to "internalize all that stress" around other people, but then come tell him what's wrong. Is that acceptable? Or, what would you say?
2006-09-06 14:13:56 · 6 answers · asked by milomax 6 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
I should add that the person in the question is actually a friend of mine. I used to work at the same place she does now, so I know the work environment is as I've described it. I left because of that environment. I'm trying to find some good answers / help for her. Thanks!
2006-09-06 16:37:02 · update #1
Assuming you are not in a position to walk away from this job, I would not take the advice of your boss. Internalizing stress is a great way to have it have major effects on your health.
Given that they have put a hiring freeze in place, chances are your boss is not going to threaten to fire you for not hiding the stress. What would he do if he did?? He/She isn't going to do the job. So, either disregard the advice or simple say, thanks for the suggestion and then simply ignore it.
You need to schedule time for yourself EVERY DAY. This 30 or 60 minutes a day will make you a much more productive person in the long run. The only way I know of dealing with stress is to deal with it and not try and ignore it. It will not go away and it does compound.
I would suggest that you make a point to stop working an hour earlier than you have been. Find somewhere between work and home and take time for yourself. Either a walking path or a gym. Get some physical activity to burn off some of the stress. I suggest doing it before you get home for two reasons; a) you will be a much more pleasant person when you get there, b) you won't get caught up in all the stuff going on and shrug off your "me time".
Lastly, pick one day a week to work a normal day. Not the 12-15 hour day. 9 hours and get out of there. Make this a family night. Order pizza or get one from the store and everyone participate. Spend time together and you will feel less guilt over the long hours.
Good Luck.
2006-09-06 15:11:06 · answer #1 · answered by hvnmorefun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is as you put it.
There are two types of people the ones who strive in situations as this and the other who knows his limitations.
Maybe you need to quietly look for another job and then leave.
I know of a case where a man worked at the same job for 22 years thinking that was all he could do.
Through a turn of events an opportunity came his way and he is working in the field of something that he loves and his pay at the end of the week is a bonus.
His pay is a little less than before but with some cut backs he manages because his ship isn't sinking through work over load.
Take care!
2006-09-06 15:00:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is obvious that you boss is not being very reasonable. He doesn't want to hear what's wrong, bad attitude for a boss to have, so don't bother telling him. He is just going to view it as a complaint on your part. Now, I don't know how you were showing stress, venting to others or whatever that situation was. You should not vent to others, because it will come back to hunt you. However, if your boss chastised you without mentioning the long days and show some understanding for not having appropriate staffing than I think it is time to move on.
2006-09-06 14:30:41 · answer #3 · answered by CNKCKFIL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is happening at your job is wrong. I think it is wrong to have to work 12-15 hour days. I think pressure cooker stress is unbearable. I think your boss is completely unfair to criticize you for showing the strain they are putting on you.
I would see the project to its completion but then refuse to be responsible for more work load than you can reasonably handle.
2006-09-06 14:22:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you should explode every once in a while. When someone pisses you off, let 'em have it. If the boss complains about it, let him have it, too.
A 20 second explosion can release a days worth of stress. I do it often, just to keep regular.
2006-09-06 14:21:10 · answer #5 · answered by normobrian 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
**looks up** titties, jugs, bodacious tar tars, the twins.......... by the way Crash luv, if she would be in a position to't take a compliment then bugger her (so as to speak). except your boss is a bloke and then properly, um, er.........yeah, good success with that.
2016-09-30 10:13:26 · answer #6 · answered by sashi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋