ok i haven't been able to have an "O" for a long time now i been having to fake it several times (89%), there are times i do tell my bf. i'm still physically attracted to him so i don't understand why i just can get there. so help, any adivce or is it me?
2006-09-06 13:58:06 · 8 answers · asked by no one 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
try having some type of fantasy that you want to imagine out and or imagine someone else while screwing your boyfriend
2006-09-06 14:02:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Having to fake it 89% of the time is way more than "several times." You don't give many details --such as have you ever climaxed?Are you referring to vaginal orgasms and clitoral? How old you and your bf are, and how sexually experienced you and he are. My guess is that its him------that whatever he's doing isn't doing the job. A good lover would be able to get you off with either a vaginal orgasm or clitoral or both. Unfortunately, a lot of men in their 30's and 40's aren't any better in bed now than they were in high school. Your not helping your bf by faking orgasms.
Sex without orgasm is disappointing, to say the least. Tell him what feels good and what doesn't. If you feel self-conscious, or inhibited about him performing oral sex on you, its because he's not good at it. If he's really good, you won't feel that way because you'll be swept away in a sea of pleasureable sensation. If worse comes to worse, you can always use a vibrator. Good luck.
2006-09-06 22:20:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you emotionally attracted to him as well? May have something to do with it. Or, is your sex life one sided, meaning, is it all about him, or does he pay attention to your needs as well? I don't know if you are into oral gratification, but if you are, are you the one providing the oral stimulation and is it reciprocated? Are there other things that may work that you haven't tried, different positions, different times of the day. Do you create an inviting atmosphere or is it a "quickie" all the time. What do you need to spice it up, are you getting enough sleep, how do you feel about yourself? Do you communicate well, open dialogue is important. Hope that this didn't sound too personal, good luck.
2006-09-06 21:07:54 · answer #3 · answered by deepthinker 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps ask him to take extra time for you. Extend your foreplay always helps... i usually only can go during foreplay.... my partner will spend ages down there.
Im not sure how you feel about anal play - but it really helps.... as in when your man is going down on you get him to rub your bum too - not insert a finger cuz that can be uncomfortable, but just rub the outside... it makes everything feel much more intense!!
If all else fails, try showing him how you like it ;) can be a great turn on for you too!
2006-09-06 21:02:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
May be you need to bring other things into your fore play, go to an adult toy store together and pick things out together that you will both enjoy. Some times you need to add other things to spice things up. Nothing wrong with that.
2006-09-06 21:24:10 · answer #5 · answered by Right Wing Extremist 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a step back, and masturbate yourself to orgasm. No pressure, a warm bath, a glass of wine, lots of lube, clitoral vibrator. Once you get confidence in your ability again, take small steps with your boyfriend to getting there, no pressure allowed. Let him be there while you use the vibrator, trust me, he will love it, and incorporate him, guide his hands and such. You can get this back, it will take a little time, but you can do it.
2006-09-06 21:23:18 · answer #6 · answered by n_of49p 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he can't give you an "O" do it yourself. Nothing wrong with that. You know what feels good to you.
2006-09-06 21:08:20 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to eat you and while he is doing so let your mind go then have him and about six of his friends do you really good
2006-09-06 21:09:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋