I love my friend?

Question

i have recently found out im gay and i have a huge crush on one of my friends but i dont know what to do. How could i go about letting him know i really like him a lot.

Answer 1

I would use caution. Look, I think it's awesome, what you have discovered. You are young, and fresh, and I'm sure your proud, and that's fantastic. I'm happy for you. It's beautiful. But, I'm worried that you might get hurt. It happened to me. I did something no gay man should ever do.... I fell in love with a straight man. He was my first gay crush, and it devastated me when I found out he didn't go for that sort of thing. For months, I was destroyed.... completely gone. I made the mistake of rushing in to something I wasn't really ready for. I wasn't ready to come out to my best friend, but I fell in love, so I thought it was the right thing to do. Boy, was I wrong. Yes, you should come out, but don't rush things with your friend. If you care about him, you don't want to lose him. Ease into it, you know. Sit him down, and talk it out. Be honest, but calculating. Space out the conversation. Start by telling him how much his friendship with you means to him. Tell him that you have thinking about a lot of things, and slowly come out to him. But, make sure you know how he feels about gay people before you talk to him. But, make sure your honest. Tell him about your fear. If he cares about you, then he would not want to hurt you. I'm happy for you, and I wish you and your friend the best. Good luck.

Answer 2

Have an honest, heart to heart, talk about it with him. However, be prepared to accept him as he is. Even if (that's a big "if") he's Gay, he still may not return the same crush on you!

My vote..... be willing to work together for the best possible relationship you and your friend can earn and have / keep.

Good luck, and best wishes!

Answer 3

If you friend isn't gay, I wouldn't tell him that you have a crush on him. There would be no benefit to it, and it would probably destroy the friendship you do have. Even if you somehow managed to convince him to experiment with you, if he's straight you know that won't last long and won't go very far.

Answer 4

If you're sure he's gay also then go for it. If you're sure he's straight then leave it alone - the crush will pass. It's a different story if you're not sure. Try testing the waters by subtle flirting and look for clues to his sexual orientation.

Answer 5

well come right out and be honest, one of my friends went through the exact same thing and he waited a long time to tell a friend of his that he had a crush on him. Come to find out his friend liked him as well and was just waiting to find out if my friend liked him too. So you see maybe your friend likes you too and he is just to shy to say so.

Answer 6

Wow most people know that they are gay all their lives. If he is your friend you should know his feelings about gay people. Do you have a sense that he may be gay? If not I think you should keep your feelings to yourself, unless you want to lose him as a friend.

Answer 7

Not knowing anything about your friend, i.e. likes, dislikes, personallity etc. My advice would be to tell him your feelings and then gage his reaction. That should give you an answer.

Answer 8

if he is your friend, start by telling him you are gay. His reaction will tell you a lot. If he is suportive, he is a good friend who you can tell this to and get a normal reaction.

Answer 9

What's the big stake! If you're really friends, you must be aware by now how he'd react. Either you're moron or you were not really friends - just another acquaintance!!

Answer 10

well u can write a note 2 him telling him that u like him