My niece is 5 and in first grade. She already can read at a third grade level, as well as do addition and subtraction. She's unusually bright, but emotionally she's a normal 5 year old. In school she gets bored and talks out, and tell the teacher, "This work is too easy." She interrupts the class, makes faces, and so on. Time-outs don't have any affect on her; in fact she says she prefers them.
She went to a private kindergarten where she was in a small class and got a lot of attention. Now, in her first week in a private school, the teacher is exasperated and the mother is very upset. I suggested positive reinforcement -- rewarding good behavior, how is this done?
Please help if you have any experience with this. My sister (the mother) is afraid he daughter is never going to be able to rise above the bad first impression. She wants to meet with the teacher... what should she say?
p.s. The girl is already young for her grade, so advancing her to 2nd grade isn't an option.
2006-09-06 13:43:39 · 8 answers · asked by MailorderMaven 6 in Education & Reference ➔ Primary & Secondary Education
Wow, lol, sounds like me in first grade! I think she needs to be tested for the Gifted and Talented program if available...her intelligence level is not something to be curbed if she's that advanced...also have your sister or yourself research some magnet programs in your area, speak to the principal, STAY INVOLVED!! My mom did and it saved my life as a kid...kept me sane and learning...it wasn't my fault that she had put so much time into me before entering school that I was much more advanced than the other kids for my grade, and I was a late baby (born November)...My mom constantly communicated with the principal, the teacher, anybody who'd have an effect on me to make sure they understood my sensitive nature...I don't agree that it's okay to excuse bratty behavior or anything, but I do understand that it's not okay to browbeat a child that intelligent...she just may need more busy work than the other kids, maybe a little more challenging than what they get...her teacher should foster this instead of be frustrated with her "causing more work"...she's a teacher, that's what they're paid to do!
2006-09-07 06:53:29 · answer #1 · answered by nurse28 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Past experience shows that if you skip grades/are youngest, you'll typically grow to become a follower, not a leader. Emotionally, the 5 year old may even be not as socially developed as her peers, causing her behavior issues. Reward her for good behavior, and instead of putting the 5 year old in time out, start taking away small privilages until she realizes that she needs to change her behavior. In later grades, accelerrated classes will be available.
2006-09-06 13:53:20 · answer #2 · answered by Someone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently she has already learned that she is SO bright and SO adorable but has not learned social skills. Her parents need to work very hard on that with her to let her know what is acceptable behavior and what is not. She should not think she can rule the roost. If she has not had much interaction with other kids, now is the time to invite little cousins, classmates, etc. so she can be taught to be a nice little girl and learn to share. Otherwise, she will grow up to think she is perfect and only she counts in this big cruel world.
2006-09-06 13:48:18 · answer #3 · answered by phoenixheat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's tough. I'm not a parent, and this is probably not possible, but I think homeschooling would be better for this child. As long as she is active in social activities like girl scouts and 4-H. She needs to be challenged in school or she will never learn to study or work hard. If it's possible, maybe the teacher can give her more difficult assignments to work on independently.
Good Luck.
2006-09-06 13:48:45 · answer #4 · answered by Gypsy Girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has the teacher tried writing a social story with her?? Gone over a few times a day, it can help students remember the social skills they are trying to learn. A sensory cushion for her seat might help with the wiggly fidgets that often start and then travel to the mouth!
2006-09-07 01:24:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Positive reinforcement only goes so far with intelligent, willful kids. I'd try a little negative reinforcement for a change. When was the last time the little brat got a good spanking?
2006-09-06 13:50:27 · answer #6 · answered by DJ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only things u have to do is
1. Smack her on the head
2. i dont no smack her again
2006-09-06 13:51:00 · answer #7 · answered by MaSTaH.YoDa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ridlin!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-06 13:45:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋