He says that he wants to be with me, but in bed he prefferrs to just hold me and be "protected" from my body by the blanket or clothes. He explains it that he is tired or busy, or needs space or time to think. I can't figure out if it is something chemical or he is unexperineced, or just assexual, or I am not the one for him. Talking usualy makes him mad - "you always complain" etc.
We are together 1 year, but it has been like this all the time accept sometimes he "lets me" make love - he is very passive, but at least not closed. I don't know how to educate him without making it worse
2006-09-06 13:33:09 · 20 answers · asked by NONE 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i have the same problem. my wife loves sex, i love sex. still not a lot of lovemaking here. we found out last year that i had a brain tumor, ok now though, they removed it from my pituitary gland and did a great job. now though my testosterone is in the dirt, making me have a low desire for sex as well as growing some great man boobs. YEAH! well it was solved pretty well with a testosterone shot once every 2 weeks. didn't bring back all the desire i had before the tumor, but my wife is happier now. she gives me the injection and smiles at the same time. you have have to give the shot though the nurses at any hospital can do it for him. anyway, that's what happened and may be happening to him. at least get a testosterone level check for him, very easy blood draw. hope helps
2006-09-06 13:43:33 · answer #1 · answered by asrvivor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean, "Sometimes he lets me make love"?
If you know, for sure, that he is a Man, then slow your role. Maybe he wants to be Married first. You haven't had sex, or made love, until you get married, in my opinion...but you'll have to check it out for yourself.
I haven't heard of a decent man that would rather wait and respect your body in this day in a long time. Is his friends like him?
They'll make a lot of Mothers and Fathers happy.
2006-09-06 13:44:41 · answer #2 · answered by Vera W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow........be concerned, very concerned. Has it ever crossed your mind that he could be gay? People who are attracted to someone have no problem showing it, especially a guy...they usually like to have sex quite a bit. There is something very wrong with this picture and I would be either long gone or want to get to the bottom of it. Something is going on with him, but you just don't know the cause.
2006-09-06 13:37:58 · answer #3 · answered by Geez Louise 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Possible causes:
1. He's a Pisces (or has a lot of Pisces/12th house in his chart)
2. You have "the air of despair", meaning that you try to please him every second, something most men (and women, for that matter) find unappealing.
3. He sees you as his mom
4. He wants to end the relationship but he's very comfy... maybe living in your place and taking advantage of you.
5. He's asexual www.asexuality.org
2006-09-06 16:54:27 · answer #4 · answered by Evenstar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he might be gay, im not saying that he is, im just saying it's possible. i had a friend who had gotten married to her best friend. she thought that just because they got along so well that they should just get married. they had had sex before when they were younger. well to make a long story short, they had gotten married and for the honey moon they went to las vegas, and nothing happened, as a matter of fact nothing ever happened. i dont remember how she finally figured it out, but at the end he was gay. ask him if he attracted to you.
2006-09-06 13:38:55 · answer #5 · answered by KORD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's self consious about his body ,thee are alot of women like that it's ok for man to , but maybe you can talk to him just change your approach a bit.
2006-09-06 13:35:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a new Man
2006-09-06 13:34:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't always about sex. Sex can change a relationship and not always in a good way.
2006-09-06 13:41:03 · answer #8 · answered by SouthernBelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no matter if talking makes him mad i think you should realy tri to talk to him because it seems to me that he does not wont to have a sexual relationship with you most of the time but just tri to talk to him....
2006-09-06 13:42:05 · answer #9 · answered by Drina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any odor problems? Seriously?
2006-09-06 13:35:11 · answer #10 · answered by Hermit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋