Would it affect our relationship if you found out your partner couldn’t have a baby?

Answer 1

For most people it probably would affect them in a negative way, however you must decide how important your partner is to you. If you truely love them, you will find other ways to make your dreams of a family come true!

Answer 2

For me personally? No. If I love my partner and my partner loves me, then I believe this should not be an issue. For me personally (and in both of my marriages) I did not get married with the intention to have children as many people do. I married because I loved my partners for who they were and not whether or not they had the ability to procreate. Some people think otherwise of course, but I have always been an independent thinker and made my own decisions based on my needs and not what others expected of me.

However, I must note that this is a personal issue for me, so I write from experience. I am not able to have children due to a wide variety of female issues I have. 18 years ago, while married to my first husband, I found out I had serious medical issues that affected my ability to have children. I went through two years of painful fertility treatments and surgeries to try to get pregnant again but they all failed. (I had gotten pregnant unexpectedly once, miscarried and then my problems were revealed, to clarify). My ex husband was as supportive as he could be but very self absorbed. He really wasn't present for me as he should have been, and our marriage failed. Did it fail because of this? I don't know. We had other problems far worse than my inability to have kids, but it didn't help. I don't think he really wanted them anyway.

I remarried 6 years ago at the age of 44 so my options of trying again were becoming slim due to my age and the complications I could have had if I were able to successfully conceive and maintain the pregnancy. I would have been classified as high risk and bedridden for the duration of the pregnancy. This would have been the case if I were younger, too. But my second husband didn't marry me because he wanted kids - he married me because of who I was as a woman and never pressured me to even consider adoption. Sometimes we talk about it, but since I am going to be 51 in two months, it really isn't something I want to proceed with. We dream of what our kids would have been like, but we are content with what we have because we have the deepest of loves. Other men might have not been as supportive or as giving as he is, so I consider myself lucky that he values me for who I am.

Answer 3

Well, if my partner couldn't have a baby it might affect our relationship because then I might want to have a baby with you. But then, our relationship isn't even at the "Hi, Howjado" stage yet.

Answer 4

I have all the children I want. IF my present partner were to get pregnant, I think there would be something seriously wrong with biology.

Answer 5

It has in the past.. I've had two men walk away from me because I told them when they started talking marriage that I couldn't have children. However, my husband didn't care and loved me for just me even though I cannot have children.

Answer 6

Depends on what you want out of the relationship but chances are yes/

Answer 7

We aren't sure if we can have children. We do know that getting pregnant isn't a problem but staying pregnant is. It hasn't caused any problems but it is stressful and disappointing.

Answer 8

For some reason I am infertile. However my husband loves me and says that it's ok if we don't have kids. That he just wants to grow old with me.

Answer 9

I think it would be dissappointing, but people shouldn't only love each other to make babies. There's always adoption!

Answer 10

No, my wife can't have children but I still love her very much.