2006-09-06 13:14:38 · 17 answers · asked by wilkinson_1979 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Honey, you are the only one who can control this, and PLEASE do not admit that you cannot control yourself. Emotions are caused by chemicals that YOU release into YOUR body...no one does it for you. You are terribly insecure if you are worried about past relationships...haven't you a past? Does your past get in your way? Of course not..well, he is the same..he is with you, not them. They offer NOTHING what so ever...YOU offer it all. Act like it, believe it, and know it. The jealousy will pass and you will be in control That is the only way to live...quite creating the drama, he isn't doing it, the Ex's are not doing it. Lord, your life will be nothing but a terrible pain if you cannot get a grip on something this easy. I wish you the best in life and love.
2006-09-06 13:19:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is he the first person you were ever with? Should he be worried about your past relationships? Try remember he is with you now and enjoy it. You cannot control what he has done or will do, but you can push him away if you are always stressing over things you can't control. Enjoy what you have with him now and take it one day at a time. Life is too short for this kind of stress. Take care.
2006-09-06 20:22:47 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of it this way sweetheart, the past "flings" were just that, not marriage material. He chose you because of the person you are. I went through the same thing with my husband (10 years now). I stopped being jealous when I met some of them, let me tell you I felt so stupid for feeling jealous over a hussy. He loves you and you alone. Laugh at yourself and stop questioning your self-worth.
2006-09-06 20:20:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You better find a way to stop or you will lose him. Jealousy is a vicious monster and will destroy your marriage if you don't control it. Didn't you have past relationships? Would you like it if he were jealous and suspicious about you and your past? Let it go...it is past. He married YOU...so enjoy the present and future, and quit living in the past
2006-09-06 20:19:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to have this problem with my bf. I've been in some cheating relationships and had a hard time trusting him. The real question is, why did you marry him if you didn't trust him yet? I couldn't marry my bf unless I knew I could trust him. I suggest counseling. I'm in it now and it's helping.
2006-09-06 20:16:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he married you. That's 1 point for you. If he didn't love you he wouldn't be with you. As long as he's not cheating on you... what's done is done... he can't go back and un-do the past. You just need to keep telling yourself that he chose you... you're the special one.
2006-09-06 20:18:45 · answer #6 · answered by Sugar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First realize that you're the one he's with. Jealousy never helped any marriage. Second, you have to make a conscious decision to stop. Consider that you might lose him to your jealousy...then would you be able to stop?
2006-09-06 20:17:45 · answer #7 · answered by mamaloo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just think of one of your old flames and enjoy the memory every time jealously rears it's ugly head...... you have to choose a healthy mindset. When you make up your mind to be confident and content you will be. All in your head, m'dear.
2006-09-06 20:21:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband needs to stop bringing them up if they are bothering you. But maybe realize that you got the guy, they didnt
2006-09-06 20:20:03 · answer #9 · answered by Baghdad Pete ! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Need more info--
how far in the past are these relationships?
what do you mean "messed me up?"
2006-09-06 20:16:56 · answer #10 · answered by from HJ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋