2006-09-06 13:13:37 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Have her get some counseling about what to do. But the best thing you can do for her is be a friend and be there to listen.
2006-09-06 13:15:55 · answer #1 · answered by mamaloo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do would be to help her tell her parents if they do not know already because she really needs to see a doctor because things do go wrong during pregnancy and maybe she should consider open adoption because at 13 she is not ready to raise a child and with open adoption she will be able to see the baby whenever she wants and make sure the people who adopt him/her are taking care of it.
Tiffany if anything someone needs to slap you for your ignorance and I find it hard to beleive you actually have kids because no parent would ever tell a child to go out and hit someone especially someone pregnant because they can always fall and misscarry and in many states hitting a pregnant person no matter where at can be considered attempted murder depending on how fare along you are.
2006-09-06 13:55:25 · answer #2 · answered by Diamonds_Glow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell her that she should do what she thinks is best, it is a very hard decision to make and if she lets someone else make it or allows her self to get talked into something she isn't sure about she may regret it later.
Of course she can talk to as many people as she likes to help her make the decision but ultimately the decision has to be hers.
Do not listen to people that say abortion is murder etc. If that is what she sincerely believes to be best then she should do it, equally if she wants the baby then she should do that. The only thing anyone can do when they are faced with a difficult decision like this is to do what they believe to be best at the time.
Personally I do not agree with abortion but my friend has had one and I still sat and hugged her when she cried about it, she only did what she felt right at the time and that is all anyone can ask of your friend.
And remember, true friends do not judge, so just be there for her.
2006-09-07 10:58:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly people, saying "she shouldn't be pregnant at 13" isn't helping this person. Secondly, It's not up to her friend to tell her what to do with her body or the baby.
All you can really do is be there for her, support her when she makes her choice and generally be a friend for her. She's going to need alot of help if she's going to keep it.
2006-09-10 09:52:58 · answer #4 · answered by meowsuff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be there for her.and try to get her to put the baby up for adoption.No 13 year old is ready to be a mom.And there are hundreds of families that would love to have a child but can't.You'd be surprised at how many people would adopt that child in a heart beat. My family being one.Thats why I say adoption is the best thing.I was adopted to and im so glad.But anyway just be there and support her
2006-09-09 20:22:55 · answer #5 · answered by wvcountrygirl_93 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa... dont do abortion, and definetly dont do adoption. Support her... she can do it. Dont get her to take the easy way out, she took initiative in getting pregnant, she isnt too weak to have a baby. Yes, its hard, but she'll be a good mother. And its not the end of anyones life unless they're lazy and like when people feel sorry for them. You can always go to school with a baby. There are always ways to take care of a baby. Social Services has MANY programs to help with money, daycare, school, and more. Tell her not to be stupid, she has a son or daughter depending on her. And its not as bad as people make it out. I assure you she'll be a stronger and more respectable person if she goes through with it and keeps her child ... more respectable and stronger than these fools that tell teen mothers to abort or give their BABY away. Think about it ...
2006-09-06 13:20:14 · answer #6 · answered by Dream 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it depends on the kind of person she is do you think that she will be a good mother do you think that you can help her out she need to look for work the county don't work we have to many kids not doing anything but raising thugs thats not good I don't want my 4 yr old daughter with a thug I was 14 when I had my son he is now 15 yrs old an i'm 30 I was a mother I was the kind that took care of everbody in my family I was the 1st born so I new I could do it if she has a good mother then she should have a why to take care of her child
2006-09-06 14:52:03 · answer #7 · answered by no1peaches 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Adoption really is the only option for her. Look up counseling centers in your area or talk to your counselor at school and ask for advise. They have to keep your privacy - so trust the counselor. Be supportive and try to talk her in to waiting to have sex again until she's ready - like 25. It's just not fair to her or the baby to keep it. She's a kid and will be for a long time still. Also, share your concerns with your parents. They need to know the load of concern you taken upon yourself - in order to be a good friend.
2006-09-06 13:50:42 · answer #8 · answered by MommaBidi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could start putting together a shower for her, with as many people as you can possible think of. That way she can get a lot of stuff for the new baby.
You could also ask your friends and family to chip in a few bucks here and there for a baby fund for her.
Offer to help her babysit. Help her with her school work... that sort of thing.
2006-09-06 13:29:20 · answer #9 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do is to try and help her get some support.
If she doesn't know where to start she could try ringing Childline 0800 11 11 - it's a free and confidential phone service for young people. They won't criticise or judge, just try adn help her figure out what she needs to do.
2006-09-06 21:05:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk her into adopting it out so her and the child have a chance at life. At 13 no one is ready for mother hood.
2006-09-06 13:15:06 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋