My husband and I are going to try it. We have been together for 22yrs. We have 3 beautiful children together. The separation was his choice. I was totally shocked and devistated when he left. He was a wonderful husband and great father. I feel as though the couseling will be our only hope for a future together.
2006-09-06 13:12:54 · 3 answers · asked by april rain 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Marriage counseling like other things arent for everyone and with other things there are no guarantees that it will work. Both parties have to want to save their marriage and want to do counseling. Marriage counseling basically opens up communication between you two and lets you solve your differences with a referee present and helps find a common bind on which to rebuild a marriage. Look at marriage counseling not as a last resort but as a way to achieve your desire. Go into it with an open mind and heart and dont expect too much as it isnt easy but then you have a history together and thats actually worth alot. Bring all your marital problems out in the open and questions too otherwise youll never gain anything. Remember if you want something bad youll take a risk, but if you want something bad enough then youll risk everything. It does sound like the seperation is going so well for your husband so hes willing to iron out the differences and give your marriage a second chance. Good luck
2006-09-06 13:28:26 · answer #1 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-08 07:31:47 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I went to about 8 different counselors before we found one that fit our needs. This woman isn't really ethical to tell you she thinks you should divorce. That isn't her place. Her place is to guide you and teach you methods of communication so the two of you can work out your problems. Her place isn't to get involved with your problems and make assumptions as to whether you can work them out or not. That is you and your husband's decision. Get another opinion. Maybe several. When you go ask a lot of questions about the process and what you can expect from each session. Basically there should be a plan where you can follow your progress session by session. It sounds like this counselor isn't very good at what she does and instead of admitting she failed she would rather just blame it on you and your husband. You wasted a lot of time and money for nothing. If you love each other don't give up--that's the bottom line.
2016-03-27 00:48:25 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i would say go for it because you can save a marriage. good luck. i hope it work good luck
2006-09-06 14:02:42 · answer #4 · answered by Melda R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋