It seems like everytime I try and help him my big a$s mouth says something that isn't what I really meant to say and it makes matters worse. My fiance I should say has his own business in selling home theater equipment and he works alone and he has been struggling so much so that he quiting in the middle of the day to go home and drink. He is very testy with me because of this and all I want to do is help him but I can't when he is acting out at me because of the problems at work, how can I help him. He definately does not want to drink he tells me but he says that it is the only way he knows how to relax so he don't go off the deep end. he is very sincere and I truly belive that he wants help but he will not go to a doctor or anything like that . what kind of advice can I give to him to help us both out. I assure him that I am here for him and he says he knows this but he don't think I understand what he is going through and i want to point him in a better direction.Please help me out
2006-09-06 13:09:45 · 6 answers · asked by ~Ronyea Q♪ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hiya im really sorry to hear that things are not too good for you and your fiance just now,is it because of work that your fiance is depressed? I can honestly sympathise with you because my husband is also currently suffering from depression and has been on and off for years.Can i just say first of all that you are being a brilliant partner;both loving and supportive,and i know its difficult and you feel like banging your head off a brick wall,but dont give up trying to persuade him to seek help,to resolve it before it gets any worse,i also suggest you take care of your own health too,as i used 2 put so much time on my husbands welfare that my own health suffered,you could email me and we could help each other through these tough times,take care,hope this helps in some way
2006-09-06 13:26:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sound like he needs profesional help and a few AA meetings.
Only he can decide when he has hit rock bottom. Remember that you can not change his behavior, but you can change your own. Don't do for him what he should be doing for himself.Look up AA in the phone book and attend an alanon meeting, and see if the picture fits. for you. Good Luck. Grandma
2006-09-06 20:17:53 · answer #2 · answered by nancy e 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
drinking alcohol is the worst thing you can do when you are depressed. If he wants help he will stop drinking and go to a doctor. Depression and alcoholism are both diseases that won't go away no matter what you do or say.
2006-09-06 20:16:43 · answer #3 · answered by mistypa12000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just give him some space to figure things out... maybe move out if you're living with him... he needs to get it together before you guys get married... that pressure will only make him worse. Let him know that drinking is self destructive and will only create more problems.
2006-09-06 20:15:29 · answer #4 · answered by Sugar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well take him to a resort and talk things over with him if he gets angry just give hima hug and appoligise, but dont stop slowly tell him what u think...
2006-09-06 20:14:39 · answer #5 · answered by Lil'So 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your words can't comfor him then try action... give him a massage or something.. or a hug.. good luck
2006-09-06 20:15:16 · answer #6 · answered by jjt168 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋