ok..seriously need new family and friends...lol...my cousin has been with this guy for 10 years...when he had probs with his parents, she's the one who patched things up by leting him stay with her and going to the parents to see if they could talk and work things out, it did. after that dude decided to become a freaking drug addict, cocaine, why? i have no ******* clue! well she helped him through counceling and all that stuff, helped him go to NA and see a therapist, that worked out. after that dude became a ******* alcoholic! my cousin "caught" it on time and he's been sober for 5 years now...now last week he goes to my cousin saying that he cheated on her with his best friend whom is a girl and that was going on for a month but it's over he wants to work stuff out with her. let me tell you, she is emotionally tired from this dude, she does love him but enough it enough! his and her family ispressuing her to stay with him and get counseling together so they can get married,
2006-09-06 13:04:36 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i'm like girl...take a break from him to see what's going to happen cause obviously he has issues...he's been calling her, sending her gifts and flowers and everything...i tihnk she should dump him but i can tell her that you know...she has to see stuff for herself..but i dont know what i can do to help....they have been together for 10 years...i dont know..any advice??
2006-09-06 13:05:57 · update #1
I'm not going to tell her what to do, of course not...but i feel for her...she's my best friend...i just want to help her
2006-09-06 13:10:33 · update #2
carcaterra...your answer is not relevant to my question at all....you knew the guy was taken whne you hooked up with him...BOTH of you are to blame.
2006-09-07 13:43:58 · update #3
It really sounds like its your COUSINS issue...not yours. Support your cousin but in this time she really doesn't need any ones advice....(in my experience girls don't listen to advice when it comes to bf) Just pray that she has a good head on her shoulders to make some right decisions.
2006-09-06 13:08:04 · answer #1 · answered by ***Miss Ria*** 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi you could casually drop into conversation the idea of male chastity sex games. There are fantastic plastic devices now that lock the penis in a flaccid state and prevent an erection until you unlock it with your key. She could introduce this idea as an exciting sex game. Most men will agree. This of course will spark their relationship up again and also prevent him cheating.
2006-09-06 21:42:39 · answer #2 · answered by internetoptimiser 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i didnt even read your question, im just writing as an answer back to the answer you wrote on my question
first, you should have read properly so you would know that we only hooked up twice and we dont anymore and i dont have intentions to
second, your just being another victim of society by always blaming the girl. you do realise that its always the other girl to blame, never the guy...the one who is doing the cheating
your telling me to leave him alone, you dont even know him, me or anything. your just there to try and help me, not to insult me
why are u telling me to leave him alone anyways when i clearly state that he is the one who always comes up to me, flirts with me etc. my question was why he did that but u have to stick your nose in it when it has nothing to do with you and clearly i see that you stick your nose in other peoples problems too...
what he did to ur cousin is non of your business. she is the one who should make the decision, not you....
2006-09-06 23:58:32 · answer #3 · answered by carcaterra 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes the best way to help a friend is to let them make their own mistakes. True friendship means you'll be there for her when she does.
2006-09-06 14:43:27 · answer #4 · answered by pixiechick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give your friend the book : BOUNDARIES by Dr. henry cloud and Dr. john townsend. they have to draw the line somewhere or you just get walked on forever.
2006-09-06 13:12:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
butt out and why post this on married/divorced anywway you sound like a neighborhood gossip monger
2006-09-06 13:35:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
its none of your business, you will end up the bad guy here if you get involved.
2006-09-06 13:06:52 · answer #7 · answered by Tim 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
simple, you stay out of it. let her make her own choices, which she will do anyway...get a life of your own, dump the drama, she owns it !!
2006-09-06 13:08:20 · answer #8 · answered by 65MPH-HA 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋