How can I become more confident?

Question

How can I become more confident and high self esteem. I always talk bad to my self,always think about negative things,always expect the worse. If people are extra nice to me I think that they are just being rude. Have barely any energy kinda feel tense and tired all the time. Always look for other people to lead, feel very inferior to others, I think everybody is better than me. How can I change this I really need help. Thanks any help will be appreciated.

Answer 1

You should get some counseling. You could be suffering from teen angst if you're a teen ager or you could be sufering from depression. You may need medication or some good talk therapy. Meanwhile you should be getting as much exercise as you can to kick up your endorphin production. Remember that you program your mind like a computer. GIGO, right? Make a conscious and concerted effort to stop all your negative self talk. One trick is to wear a rubber band on your wrist and everytime you hear yourself thinking something like, I'm so stupid, give the rubber band a snap. Then replace the bad thought with something positive. Even if it feels like a lie at first tell yourself you are smart and capable and confident and happy. If you can't quite do that try, I'm learning, I'm improving, or the old classic, Every day in every way I'm getting better and better. Remember you aren't lying to yourself. You are programming your brain to give you the results you want. Good luck. Don't give up. Promis yourself you will make a real effort for thirty days.

Answer 2

Well, confidence is sometimes difficult to come by for some people. As you get older and more life experience it will come easier. It does sound as if you might need to find a mentor someone you trust. It might not be a bad idea to get on some anti-depressents. Remember if your Dr says you need it you are in good company many many people take them and it is not your fault. It could be a chemical imbalance in your body. Anti-depressents drugs will help balance those out.

I assume you are a guy so do you have a chllange approaching girls? This is normal and most of the time you can gain more confidece with practice. It will be hard at first like all things and easier the more you do. The hard part is only the first one then cont' it. Do you have challenges speaking in public or interviewing? Well again practice, practice, practice.

In addition working out produces endorpahsn that help you get out of these negative thoughts and help you gain confidence. I suggest you immediatly start a work out routine. Nothing fancy just do it 3 times a week for 30 mintes and talk to a mentor and/or DR.

Answer 3

Ask yourself whether there is any real basis for your assumption that others are better than you. A lot of people start with the assumption that they are better than everyone else. I believe that whether you believe you are better than others or they are better than you partly comes from genetics and partly comes from your social upbringing that began before you had any understanding of what was going on. Somewhere along the line your predilection for feeling inferior became hardwired. The fact is, you are probably good at some things and not at others, just like the rest of society. Try to look at things openly and assess yourself honestly, and don't worry too much about what others think of you. Many of the people in the world that achieve great things simply follow their instincts without regard to what others think of them. If you really can't shake your feelings of insecurity and lethargy, you may be suffering from cliinical depression and should seek medical help.

Answer 4

first...we are all related equal...no one is better than the next,,,you gotta love yourself first....Make sure you don't let someone lead you...you lead...right or wrong...you will learn. Stop thinking negative...a way to do that is when you fell negative ...say to yourself..*.i am(or use your name) making me feel this way,there is no reason to feel this way, stop it...*Turn on the Music and dance like no one looking...that way you will be able to release some tension, and laugh at your self....If you can expect the worst...then you can expect something good. Expecting the worse is not bad...you live in reality...but if you think that the worst can happen...then make the best of the situation you can.I say start taking some vitamin Bsuper it will relieve the nervous system of toxins that are stored up...But remember...no one is better than you...don't be afraid to speak your mind....not doing it, will make you feel less a person...who care if someone gets mad...everything in life is a debate...If we all saw life the same...we wouldn't have all these things happening today...but ...do get on the Vitamins quick, start relieveing some stress...in no time you'll love yourself....

Answer 5

First of all, start to look at yourself in a positive manner. make a list of everything you're good at right now. I may write on my list: basketball, long distance running, crafts, etc. Flip the paper over and write a list of things you would like to be better at (not things you're bad at, but areas you want to improve). Mine may include singing, playing harmonica, and finances. You should try to do at least one of the things you're good at every single day. It makes you feel better about yourself when you do something well. The list of the things you want to be better at is your goal sheet. Try to improve on one or more of those things each week - take lessons if possible. Compliment yourself daily (maybe not out loud). I will run 3 miles and say, "Wow. I ran much faster today than yesterday." Be positive about yourself and if there is an aspect of your life that you don't like, change it. Good luck.

Answer 6

You have to love yourself before anyone else will love you... No one is better than one another... Look at your self in the mirror and find the good things about you. Tell yourself that you’re doing a good job when you work hard on something... Find the good things in your self instead of the bad don’t worry about what others say...

Answer 7

well i wonder if you think that about your self cause of your physical apperance or because your personality.
first of all let me tell you that you are very brave by admiting your problems with others, there's some people that will never ask for help and they don't even admit they got some confident issues.
so that's a good thing about you.
i know there will be some body that cares about you.

Answer 8

Believe in yourself!

Sounds like you might be a bit depressed, I think you should talk to your family physician about how you are feeling.

Just remember you aren't alone, tons of people feel the same way :)

Answer 9

You have some symptoms of depression. You should talk to your family doctor about this. Feeling tired all the time is a classic symptom. Please, don't mess with this. See a doctor.

Answer 10

view yourself in a good image and believe in yourself and have dreams for yourself and visions of where you want to be in life. also be happy and try not to let life get the best of you b making you feel mad or depressed .